With doctors opening up more about polyamory lately, this post from Cunning Minx is both timely and important: “What healthcare professionals need to know about poly and kink.” The post was written after Minx participated in an event at Bastyr Center for Natural Health called the “human library,” which allowed naturopathic practicioners to ask questions of human “books” from various communities.
The practitioners were most concerned about how to determine whether a patient is poly or kinky, and what those terms actually mean. In order to create a safe, non-judgmental space, Minx suggests practitioners refrain from assumptions and use open-ended language when asking questions — e.g., “what is your relationship structure?” Another example from her personal experience:
My favorite personal experience with this was a fantastic gynecologist who, when I was in the stirrups, asked, “Do you sleep with men, women, or both?” I’d never heard “or both” before, and I was delighted she’d asked! I answered, “both,” to which she replied with a cheery, “Good for you!” And just like that, she established trust. I knew I could tell her about my partners, probably even my kinky proclivities, and she wouldn’t flinch, blink or judge.
Minx also recommends practitioners get their hands on Opening Up, The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and a paper entitlted “What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory.”
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