Comments for OpeningUp.net http://openingup.net Tristan Taormino's Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:31:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Non-monogamy on the cover of NYT Magazine by Nicci http://openingup.net/2011/07/06/non-monogamy-on-the-cover-of-nyt-magazine/#comment-38 Nicci Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:31:44 +0000 http://openingup.net/?p=732#comment-38 I think this is fantastic! I *heart* Dan Savage for being so open and no nonsense about ALL the issues that people face. And this is one is dear to me. I am in a "V" Polyamorous relationship. My partner and her other partner are both loving and wonderful people. Some days, it is an uphill battle with a range of emotions we are still learning to deal with. We have faced some pretty horrific responses to our lifestyle (one partner was severely injured by one person she told) but in general we believe as long as no one is being hurt, we are all honest, and we are all consenting - who should really care what our lifestyle is. We all realize that a monogamous relationship is not natural to humans. And things happen in life one can not explain - like falling in love with two people. How many "monogamous" married couples have extramarital affairs? I bet the percentage is fairly high. And with divorce rates being over 50% it becomes quite clear that monogamy is not always realistic. What we are doing is not unusual - with the exception that all of us are "in the know" and that is so much nicer than being suspicious, jealous, sneaking, lying, or anything else that goes along with fighting to be in a monogamous relationship. I believe the reality is that "couples" who find themselves in a fully-invested-100% monogamous-until-death-do-us-part kind of relationship are actually the rarity. People need to stop lying to themselves and judging others (like us) all the while being hypocritical. I am so glad to see this topic coming out in the open. Hurray! I think this is fantastic! I *heart* Dan Savage for being so open and no nonsense about ALL the issues that people face. And this is one is dear to me. I am in a “V” Polyamorous relationship. My partner and her other partner are both loving and wonderful people. Some days, it is an uphill battle with a range of emotions we are still learning to deal with. We have faced some pretty horrific responses to our lifestyle (one partner was severely injured by one person she told) but in general we believe as long as no one is being hurt, we are all honest, and we are all consenting – who should really care what our lifestyle is. We all realize that a monogamous relationship is not natural to humans. And things happen in life one can not explain – like falling in love with two people. How many “monogamous” married couples have extramarital affairs? I bet the percentage is fairly high. And with divorce rates being over 50% it becomes quite clear that monogamy is not always realistic. What we are doing is not unusual – with the exception that all of us are “in the know” and that is so much nicer than being suspicious, jealous, sneaking, lying, or anything else that goes along with fighting to be in a monogamous relationship. I believe the reality is that “couples” who find themselves in a fully-invested-100% monogamous-until-death-do-us-part kind of relationship are actually the rarity. People need to stop lying to themselves and judging others (like us) all the while being hypocritical. I am so glad to see this topic coming out in the open. Hurray!

]]> Comment on Play about an open relationship premieres this week in Ottawa by Nadine Thornhill http://openingup.net/2011/06/13/play-about-an-open-relationship-premieres-this-week-in-ottawa/#comment-34 Nadine Thornhill Wed, 15 Jun 2011 19:47:49 +0000 http://openingup.net/?p=577#comment-34 Dear Tristan, I am a huge, HUGE fan! I clicked over here during one of my regular visits to your site and I swear I just about fainted when I saw this post! Thank you so much for taking the time to promote our show and for inspiring my writing with your incredible work! Dear Tristan,

I am a huge, HUGE fan! I clicked over here during one of my regular visits to your site and I swear I just about fainted when I saw this post! Thank you so much for taking the time to promote our show and for inspiring my writing with your incredible work!

]]> Comment on Tristan on the Michael Baisden Radio Show! by Melinda http://openingup.net/2011/06/03/tristan-on-the-michael-baisden-radio-show/#comment-32 Melinda Fri, 10 Jun 2011 16:24:52 +0000 http://openingup.net/?p=658#comment-32 You finally said what I have been saying for YEARS! I was VERY impressed! I hope EVERYONE reads the book, if for nothing else, to DEFINE themselves and live in truth! You finally said what I have been saying for YEARS! I was VERY impressed! I hope EVERYONE reads the book, if for nothing else, to DEFINE themselves and live in truth!

]]> Comment on Researchers seek your experience with porn by Mitch Pravatiner http://openingup.net/2011/03/26/researchers-seek-your-experience-with-porn/#comment-27 Mitch Pravatiner Mon, 28 Mar 2011 01:13:11 +0000 http://openingup.net/?p=435#comment-27 I don't read a lot of porn (depending on definition), but I'll be glad to do the survey. I don’t read a lot of porn (depending on definition), but I’ll be glad to do the survey.

]]> Comment on OSU books Tristan for keynote on Claiming Sexual Power, then uninvites due to “website and resume” by John Ullman http://openingup.net/2011/01/19/osu-books-tristan-for-keynote-on-claiming-sexual-power-then-uninvites-due-to-website-and-resume/#comment-11 John Ullman Wed, 19 Jan 2011 16:12:43 +0000 http://openingup.net/?p=356#comment-11 I'm sorry to hear about this, but not surprised. They should pay you, and you should consider taking them to small claims court, both for the money and to set a public president and shame them. As you probably know, your acting on the verbal agreement by buying the air tickets is a strong indication that the agreement was made. As a long time talent agent and manager, and a former ACLU employee, I urge you to act on this Whatever assistance I could be, I gladly offer. Remind me to tell you about the time the Chicago Knockers, a woman's mud wrestling team, showcased at NACA. And as a Seattle resident, I hope you might be able to come up to the Center during the time you were to be in Corvallis. John I’m sorry to hear about this, but not surprised. They should pay you, and you should consider taking them to small claims court, both for the money and to set a public president and shame them. As you probably know, your acting on the verbal agreement by buying the air tickets is a strong indication that the agreement was made.

As a long time talent agent and manager, and a former ACLU employee, I urge you to act on this Whatever assistance I could be, I gladly offer. Remind me to tell you about the time the Chicago Knockers, a woman’s mud wrestling team, showcased at NACA.

And as a Seattle resident, I hope you might be able to come up to the Center during the time you were to be in Corvallis.

John

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