Books & Publications


These books are meant to be resources for people. For academics and researchers, see my Bibliography.

Against Love by Laura Kipnis (New York: Pantheon Books, 2003).

Anatomy of Love: The Natural History of Monogamy, Adultery and Divorce by Helen Fisher (W.W. Norton, 1992).

Beyond Monogamy: Recent Studies of Sexual Alternatives in Marriage edited by James R. Smith and Lynn G. Smith (Johns Hopkins University Press, 1974).

Bisexual and Gay Husbands: Their Stories, Their Words edited by Fritz Klein and Thomas Schwartz (Binghamton, NY: Harrington Park Press, 2001).

Breaking The Barriers To Desire: New Approaches to Multiple Relationships edited by Kevin Lano and Claire Parry (Five Leaves Publications, 1995).

Compersion: Meditations on Using Jealousy as a Path to Unconditional Love (e-book) by Deborah Anapol (, 2005).

Estate Planning for Same-Sex Couples by Joan M. Burda (American Bar Association, 2004).

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt (Oakland, CA: Greenery Press, 1998).

The Future of Love: The Power of The Soul in Intimate Relationships by Daphne Rose Kingma (Broadway Books, 1998).

Group Marriage: A Study of Contemporary Multilateral Marriage by Larry L. and Joan M. Constantine (Macmillan Publishing Company, 1973).

A Legal Guide for Lesbian & Gay Couples by Denis Clifford, Frederick Hertz, and Emily Doskow (NOLO, 2007).

The Lesbian Polyamory Reader: Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Casual Sex edited by Marcia Munson and Judith P. Stelboum (Binghamton, NY: Haworth Press, 1999).

Lesbian Polyfidelity: A Pleasure Guide for the Woman Whose Heart Is Open to Multiple, Concurrent Sexualoves by Celeste West (San Francisco, CA: Booklegger Publishing, 1996).

The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould (Richmond Hill, Ontario: Firefly Books, 2000).

Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples by Ralph Warner, Toni Ihara, and Frederick Hertz (NOLO, 2006).

Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer by Ryam Nearing (Pep Publishing, 1992).

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel (HarperCollins, 2006).

Money Without Matrimony: The Unmarried Couple’s Guide to Financial Security by Sheryl Garrett, Debra Neiman, and Debra A. Neiman (Kaplan Business, 2005).

The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People by David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton (Henry Holt and Company, 2001).

The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Ronald Mazur (Lincoln, NE: iUniverse, 2000).

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Encinitas, CA: PuddleDancer Press, 2003).

Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples by Nena O’Neill and George O’Neill (M. Evans and Company, Inc., 1984).

Pagan Polyamory: Becoming A Tribe of Hearts by Raven Kaldera (Woodbury, MN: Llewellyn Publications, 2005).

Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living edited by Serena Anderlini-D’Onoforio (Binghamton, NY: Harrington Park Press, 2004).

Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony D. Ravenscroft (Crookston, MN: Crossquarter Publishing Group, 2004).

Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships by Deborah M. Anapol (San Rafael, CA: Intinet Resource Center, 1997).

Recreational Sex: An Insider’s Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle by Patti Thomas (Cleveland, OH: Peppermint Publishing Company, 1997).

Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik (Oakland, CA: Defiant Times Press, 2002).

The Sex and Love Handbook: Polyamory! Bisexuality! Swingers! Spirituality! (& Even) Monogamy! A Practical Optimistic Relationship Guide by Kris A. Heinlein and Rozz M. Heinlein, (Do Things Records & Publishing, 2004).

Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After by Bella DePaulo (St. Martin’s Press, 2006).

Single State of the Union: Single Women Speak Out on the State of Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness edited by Diane Mapes (Seal Press, 2007).

Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent by Judy Ford (Adams Media Corporation, 2004).

Swap Clubs: A Study in Contemporary Sexual Mores by William and Jerrye Breedlove (Sherbourne Press, 1964).

Swinging for Beginners: An Introduction to the Lifestyle by Kaye Bellemeade (New Tradition Books, 2003).

Swinging: Real Stories by Real Swingers by Terry O’Day (Charleston, SC: BookSurge Publishing, 2005).

Three In Love: Menages a Trois from Ancient to Modern Times by Barbara Foster, Michael Foster, and Letha Hadady (, 2000).

The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to Sleeping With Three by Vicki Vantoch (New York: Thunder’s Mouth Press, 2007).

Unmarried to Each Other: The Essential Guide to Living Together as an Unmarried Couple by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller (Marlowe & Company, 2002).

Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love by Helen Fisher (Owl Books, 2004).

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