I was recently a guest on two parts of the Polyamory Weekly podcast!
In the first part, episode #334, I chat with podcast host Cunning Minx about my book, The Ultimate Guide to Kink. I talk about why I decided to write it, why I chose an anthology format, who should read the book, and what I’m hoping they’ll get out of it. We also talk about the different sections of the book — skills/techniques and fantasies/fetishes — and what each one offers to the reader.
The second part, episode #335, is an advice segment in which I answer listener questions about poly and kink. Here’s what was asked:
- Ian asks: please explain the multi-partner dynamic as it exists in the kink world, and how it is different (or similar) to the poly. (There are many polys who are not kinky, many kinky who are not poly, and many many monogamous people who are kinky and have issues participating in the kink community.)
- Emma asks: I’ve been asked to do scenes with people who are “sexually monogamous” with their partners. Lots of conversation about what activities count as sex ensues, but I’m still nervous to play with monogamous people. What if something is improvised in the moment and crosses that line? What if something feels sexual to me but not to them?
- Herb asks: Have you actually seen or heard of a fetish that surprised you?
- James asks: What if someone wants to try something scary (breath play) but is worried about past sexual abuse issues it could bring up?