Oct 152012
 

Amanda Palmer, photo by Kambriel

Musician Amanda Palmer, most well known for being the singer, pianist, and writer in The Dresden Dolls, recently sat down with¬†Out Magazine. The plan was to discuss her fan base, but the conversation — and subsequent article — went a slightly different direction when the interviewer asked Palmer about her relationship and her sexuality.

Palmer, who is legally married to author Neil Gaiman, took the opportunity to share that their relationship is non-monogamous. Considering Palmer’s boisterous personality, she was probably never trying to hide this facet of her relationship, but some recent controversy has prodded her to talk more in-depth about her relationship with both Gaiman and her fans.

I’ve never been comfortable in a monogamous relationship in my life. I feel like I was built for open relationships just because of the way I function. It’s not a reactive decision like, ‘Hey I’m on the road, you’re on the road, let’s just find other people.’ It was a fundamental building block of our relationship. We both like things this way . . . We’re very communicative with each other and we share everything. I think that’s the way you gotta do it . . . Neil and I fall more and more in love with each other every day, and I think part of that is because we encourage each other to say more, share more, to peel ourselves open to each other in the middle of the night when the day is done and the real talking happens. It’s not always easy, the peeling sometimes hurts, but the deep love it fosters is clear to see.

Bringing things back to the original topic of the interview, Palmer explained how her open relationship is informed by her close relationship with her fans:

A strong and intimate relationship with your fanbase really does kind of function like a committed partner relationship. It is the ‘other’ to whom you’re communicating and sharing your life, time and energy, and the thing that can suck your attention — and even your sexual energy — away from your real-life partner. A real relationship with your fanbase is a longterm, committed relationship; I’ve been in a relationship with my fans for 13 years.

Read the whole thing on Out Magazine.

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