Open List

The Open List is a list of professionals (therapists, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, consultants, relationship and life coaches, doctors, lawyers, etc.) who are experienced and knowledgeable about alternative sexuality and lifestyles, open relationships, polyamory, nonmonogamy, swinging, etc. The people on this list submitted their information, and therefore I make no claims about them. At the end of the list are links to other similar lists and directories. To be added to the Open List, see instructions at the bottom of the page.


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Keith R. Abrams, PhD
Sex Therapist, Sex Educator, Licensed Clinical Psycologist
Grayson and Associates, PC, 2204 Lakeshore Drive, Suite 440
Birmingham, AL 35209

Brief statement: I have been a clinical psychologist for over 20 years, and have devoted myself to working primarily with individuals and couples on sexual health and relationship issues since I completed a two-year postdoctoral fellowship at the Program in Human Sexuality over 15 years ago. I have experience working with polyamorous couples, as well as with individuals and couples representing many sexualities and lifestyles that are non-conventional. Of course, I also treat (poly) individuals with a wide range of mental health issues and do so in a health-focused, "positive psychology", affirming manner.


Jacob Art, MFT (MFC 50229)
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
459 Fulton St. #107
San Francisco, CA 94102
phone: 415-255-2558

Brief Description: I specialize in couples counseling and have been working with non-monogamous couples for over 5 years. My approach integrates over 10 years of mindfulness and somatic awareness practices with the current couples techniques that are grounded in neuroscience and attachment theory. I bring a very inclusive, integral perspective to the dilemmas we face in modern relationships. I also facilitate groups for couples looking to strengthen a primary bond as they open their relationship.

Naomi Azriel, LMFT, depth pscyhotherapy
Location: 4283 Piedmont Ave., Oakland, CA 94611
510-658-3783; naomiazriel (at)

Brief statement: I work with individuals and couples in the queer/LGBT community, people who are poly, in kinky/BDSM relationships and other sexual and social explorers. I have a long history supporting sex-workers and the sex-work community. Becoming your fullest, deepest and truest self is the goal of psychotherapy. If you are like many of the people I work with, your unique spark got diminished somewhere along the way, often during childhood. In therapy, you have the opportunity to grow and relax into your real self.

I specialize in tuning into the ways in which this special spark is still alive in you. This can show up in many ways: in your sexuality or love life, in your creativity, sense of humor, in your dreams, your work or your social or political activism. In therapy, we work together to re-ignite this spark and have it spread to the rest of your life, in a way that is real, transformative and healing.

Adam D. Blum, MFT
Licensed Psychotherapist and Couples Counselor
538 Hayes Street, San Francisco, CA 94102
415-255-4266; adam(at)
I offer services in my San Francisco office or by Skype and phone worldwide.

Brief statement: I am a licensed psychotherapist specializing in relationship issues for gay men. I offer free advice about issues such as sexuality, monogamy, open relationships, long term relationship health, and self-compassion on my blog for gay men. I answer all questions posted by the public. I write about these topics for several online gay magazines and speak on radio programs about specific issues facing gay men in relationships. My mission is to help gay men build better relationships with each other, and most importantly, help each man improve the relationship he has with himself. I have been helping gay men enjoy greater self-acceptance and more satisfying relationships for over ten years. My work is informed by my own gay relationship of 24 years.

Jonathan Brady, PhD, MA, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Location: 600 East Ocean Blvd, 400B, Long Beach, CA, 90802
Phone and free, in-person, consultations are available
(323) 456-3010; drbrady (at)

Brief Statement: I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a doctorate in East West Psychology, specializing in personal growth and sexuality; I will champion those that are kink, queer, polyamorous, and gender variant. I have helped many people cultivate, define, and live the life that they want to live, and cultivate relationships that feel right for them. Charting the course for your own life, and holding onto your own integrity, rather than society's standard, is something that I want to help you with.

Ezekiel Reis Burgin, MSW
3960 Park Blvd., Suite C., San Diego, CA
(619) 452-8312; socialjusticehealing (at)

Brief Statement: I offer anti-oppressive counseling for ALL marginalized populations, including but not limited to those marginalized due to: racism, sexism, classism, disablism, homophobia, biphobia, kinkphobia, transphobia, fatphobia, and of course societal marginalization of poly and non-monogamous relationships and identities. I have academic and clinical experience working with survivors of trauma, with a focus on interpersonal violence including child abuse, domestic violence, and sexual assault. I work primarily with individuals, but have experience and willingness to work with families. Initial hour-long consultation/introductory session is free. Home visits are encouraged for those with mobility concerns or anxiety/distress.

Christy Calame, LCSW
445 Bellevue Ave., Ste, 300
Oakland, CA 94610
phone: 510-628-0877 x3

Brief Description: Skillful and compassionate psychotherapy for individuals, couples, trios, etc. who identify as sexual outsiders, including people who are sex workers, queer, trans, poly and/or involved in BDSM. I have over 15 years experience as a clinician, and am committed to serving my communities by providing an open, exploratory space within a profession that often pathologizes these groups. I also work with substance users using the harm reduction model and issues of body image from a Health At Every Size perspective. My office is near Lake Merritt in Oakland and is wheelchair-accessible.

Cascade Spring Cook, M.A.
Relationship coach and incarnational ally
Rohnert Park, CA (Sonoma County); Sessions in person or by phone
707-794-7334; cascade(at)

Brief Statement: Creating fulfilling relationships, especially polyamorous relationships, requires getting off autopilot and practicing awareness. It's a process of exploration and discovery of what works for you and your partner(s), and of what calls to your soul. It's your journey, but I can help you navigate.

Desert Center for Sexuality Awareness

Dr. Winston Wilde, LMFT (MFC39060)
Nina Ruedas, MFT Registered Intern (IMF67572)
Ryan Rickert, LMFT (MFC49703)
Terry Cummings, LCSW (14741)

Location: 71-777 San Jacinto Dr. Suite 204, Rancho Mirage, CA 92270
Coachella Valley, Palm Springs, Palm Desert, Cathedral City, other desert cities
(760)773-3463; info(at)

Brief Statement: We are a collective of sex-positive psychotherapists and other practitioners dedicated to creating safe space for all people to explore, heal, and sanctify their sexualities.

Myles Downes, MFT (MFC48178)
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
3646 24th Street, San Francisco, CA 94110
I offer phone consultation and in-person psychotherapy services

Brief Statement: I approach therapy from a holistic perspective, working mindfully, experientially and somatically, and influenced perhaps most strongly by the Hakomi principles of mindfulness, non-violence, organicity, mind-body holism, and unity. In addition to the above areas of client concerns, I specialize in working with the following communities: polyamory (and other alternative relationship configurations), same-sex (gay, bi or queer), transgender, freak, kink, etc., although my actual practice is very diverse and I work with a broad spectrum of clients. I consider therapy to be a deeply resonant way to co-create new ways of being, and I approach therapy in general as more of an engaged collaborator than a distant expert, crafting an approach that puts the client at ease while still offering my various areas of expertise. I utilize complexity theories and an integrated, holism-oriented stance to incorporate mind, body and spiritual experiences in my work, something I believe accesses core material (and hence speeds up healing) more quickly than words alone.

Dossie Easton, M.A.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #27782
San Francisco, California (Video Conference sessions available)
415-752-7455; dossiemft (at)

Brief statement: Co-author with Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut and other books about BDSM, I serve my communities and train interns in my practice in San Francisco, where I offer therapy and counseling to individuals, couples and more. Along with lifestyle issues, I have expertise and experience in working with survivors of child abuse and other traumas, people living with serious illness, and anxiety, depression, bipolar and other emotional difficulties.

Jeanna Eichenbaum, LCSW
870 Market St. Suite 461, San Francisco, CA
415-318-9584; jeanna(at)

Brief Statement: I am a licensed therapist with over 20 years of experience working with those with a wide variety of emotional concerns. I specialize in work with the LGBTQQI communities, particularly with those who define themselves as transgender, gender-queer, bi or pan/omnisexual. I have areas of expertise as well with those in and/or exploring open relationships and polyamory, as well as members of the BDSM community. I recently presented at the Alternative Sexualities conference sponsored by the CARAS Institute in San Francisco on communication styles in polyamorous relationships. In addition to the topics mentioned, I work with various relationship configurations, and have extensive training in treating those with a history of trauma and PTSD. Phone sessions may be available after initial in-person meeting.

Brian Estlin, MA, CSB
Sex and intimacy coach
Berkeley, CA
I do phone/skype/online sessions as well as in-person sessions.
310-923-0497; brian.estlin (at) gmail (dot) com

Brief Statement: Love yourself, love your body, love your sex life! I work with people of all genders, sexualities, backgrounds, relationship styles, etc. At times we might just sit together and unravel issues through conversation. Other times I might teach you specific meditation, breathwork, self-pleasure, or other practices. If you so choose, I may also use hands-on education and bodywork to accelerate your learning. I have a Master’s degree in Psychology and am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker. I’m often described as compassionate, non-judgmental, sensitive, and safe.

Beth Gadomski, PsyD.
Licensed Psychologist providing both short-term and ongoing individual,
couple, and multiple partner therapy.
Oakland: 4001 Howe Street, 94611
San Francisco: 870 Market Street, Suite #1220, 94102
I offer phone consultations (complimentary), in-person therapy, and virtual therapy to California residents.
(415) 890-3995, drbeth (at)

Brief Statement: I am a psychologist that specializes in alternative sexualities (kink, BDSM, poly, open, non-monogamy) and subcultures (Burning Man, tech, artists, musicians). This includes working with traditionally-inclined, “vanilla” clients seeking to explore their sexuality, along with serving couples/partners with divergent sexual interests. Additional areas of specialty include depression/anxiety, grief and loss, identity development and integration, and eating disorders. My therapeutic style can be described as approachable, interactive, appropriately humorous, supportive, and sometimes challenging; I welcome you to contact me further about working together. Phone consultations can be scheduled via phone, email, or online at

M. Francesca Gentille
Relationship empowerment coach, Clinical Sexologist, Cross Cultural Minister, Relationship By Design Counselor, Expertise in Aging & Sexuality, Expertise in Addiction Recovery & Recovery after Trauma.
Location: San Francisco Bay Area, CA; Sierra and Reno, NV; phone consultations or sessions
510-759-3839, Francesca (at)

Brief statement: Francesca Gentille is a nationally recognized empowering relationship expert, clinical sexologist, flirting instructor, Non-Violent Communication coach, award winning co-editor of The Marriage of Sex And Spirit: Relationships at the Heart of Conscious Evolution; popular internet radio host of “Sex: Tantra & Kama Sutra.” who has been successfully coaching individuals, couples and moresomes for over 10 years. She coaches from the integrity of doing “the work” in her own life. Her maxim: There is no “One True Right and Only Way” to design and format relationships and sexuality. There are skill sets, that as we develop them bring greater ease and harmony to any relationship or sexuality style. She teaches both Passionate Monogamy and Ecstatic Polyamory. She is a popular instructor at both East and West Coast Loving More Conferences. She has personally road tested many relationship styles. She now considers herself to be Omni-amorous. Her relationships used to be filled with trauma and drama, now they have ease and grace.

Moushumi Ghose, MFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Sex Therapy
Location: Los Angeles, West Hollywood and Hollywood
Free 15 minute phone consultation
323-739-4250; Mou(at)

Brief statement: My main focus is on sexual issues for couples and individuals, and I specialize in alternative lifestyles, LGBT, non-monogamy, polyamory and issues around infidelity and monogamy.

Amie Harwick, MA, MFTI
MFTI, Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Intern
West Hollywood, CA
Free 15 Min Phone consultation available
626-347-7623; amie.harwick(at)

Brief statement: Psychotherapy services for individuals, couples, and families. Areas of specialty include sex therapy, and depression, anxiety.

Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT
Licensed Psychotherapist, Queer, alternative and traditional relationship therapy, individuals in transitions, trauma + body image
Location: 2120 Market Street, Suite 108, (in the Castro) San Francisco, CA 94114; 220 Montgomery St, Suite 1019, (Downtown) San Francisco, 94104: West California Ave, Mill Valley, CA 94941; initial free phone consultations offered before in-person session, also skype sessions offered
415-381-1065; ondinah(at)

Brief statement: I am a queer licensed psychotherapist whose clients include individuals and couples/ partners from the GLBTQQI, kink, and BDSM communities. I am very comfortable working with traditional, alternative and queer relationships. I assist you and your partner(s) to develop better communication and understanding around sensitive topics such as betrayal, intimacy and trust. As former Director of the Eating Disorders program at Community Institute of Psychotherapy in San Rafael, Marin. I also work with clients whose body has become their battleground and who struggle daily with food/ weight and body image struggles. I use a Health At Every Size (HAES) approach. Finally I help my clients move through trauma using EMDR (eye movement desensitization reprocessing) and somatic psychotherapies. The latter is an approach that taps into body awareness and mindfulness, which does not involve touch.

Thomas Hogan, Attorney
Location: Thomas Hogan Law Office, 331 J St #200, Sacramento, CA 95814
916-756-0243; consultation_sacramento(at)

Brief statement: A CPA and Lawyer with 25 years experience in debt relief, taxes, filing chapter 13, chapter 7 & making sure that you are treated fairly! Free consultations.

Ms Rhonda Hughes
Mediator, Attorney at Law
Location: Northern California & National; phone consultations available

Brief Statement: Mediation, Conflict Resolution, Support. Discreet Mediation Sessions for Poly, Leather, Kink and Power Exchange Relationships. Conflict is a normal part of everyday life. Sometimes, when directly involved in a conflict, we get stuck in our ability to negotiate these challenges. The aid of a trained mediator may be just what is needed to navigate the relationship in a direction of validation and fulfillment for everyone involved. Ms Rhonda is kink and poly friendly, experienced with power dynamics, and can help you find clarity and a path through the difficulties you face.

Danielle Harel, PhD
Sex Coaching and Therapy
Location: Lombard St. (At Buchanan), San Francisco, CA; Sunnyvale, CA; phone consultations or sessions
408-469-1989, danielle (at)

Brief statement: Dr. Danielle Harel is a clinical sexologist, and a professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Danielle brings her passion, depth, intuition, and magnetizing personality to her coaching session. Harnessing her extensive training as a sexologist and her background in psychology and body-based modalities, she leads people into the depth of their desires to support them in reaching their fullest sexual potential. She is particularly talented in helping her clients release shame and accept themselves fully. Danielle offers her clients a unique, experiential and exciting process to transform their relationships, create intense and loving connections and live their lives passionately.

Celeste Hirschman, M.A.
Sex Coaching and Therapy
Location: Cole Valley, San Francisco, CA; phone consultations or sessions
415-336-3258, celeste (at)

Brief statement: Celeste Hirschman has made a lifelong study of sexuality, intimacy and relationships. In her session, Celeste helps her clients have the most satisfying sex, intimacy and relationships, realize their full human potential, and deepen their experiences of pleasure and embodiment. Celeste brings her unconditional love and presence, as well as her training in sexuality and experiential work, in order to create an open, safe and exciting container where her clients can explore every aspect of themselves without guilt or shame.

Keely Kolmes, Psy.D.
Psychologist offering Individual and Relationship Counseling
220 Montgomery Street, Suite 400, San Francisco, CA 94104
I offer phone consultation and in-person psychotherapy services
415-501-9098; drkkolmes(at)

Brief Description: I am a licensed psychologist in San Francisco who specializes in working with altsex, kink, and poly identified people. I work with all different kinds of issues, including anxiety, depression, behavior and habit change, personal growth, and relationship issues. I also am the founder and President of Open MInds, a Bay Area based networking group for mental health professionals who work with kinky, poly, and/or gender variant individuals. If you have questions about whether I can help you, please call me so we can have a free phone consultation and see if we might be a good fit.

Kathy Labriola, Counselor/Nurse
Counseling, coaching & hypnotherapy
1307 University Avenue, Berkeley, CA. 94702; phone sessions available
510-841-5307; anarchofeminist(at)

Brief statement: I am in private practice in Berkeley, California providing low-fee counseling, coaching, and hypnotherapy. I work primarily with people in alternative communities: polyamory, kink, LGBT (particular expertise in bisexuality and trans issues), sex workers, anarchist/punk/hippie subcultures, drug and alcohol addiction, chronic illness, class issues, political activism and burn-out. Couseling and Hypnotherapy for making changes to enhance your happiness and effectiveness in your life. Ninety minutes sessions, Sliding scale fees.

Keiko Lane, MA, MFT
Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT 44341)
Location: Berkeley, CA
510-527-6188; keiko(at)

Brief statement: The impact of collective, historic and public events on lives marginalized by dominant cultures often goes unrecognized. Especially for women, LGBT and queer-identified people, people of color and other people marginalized by dominant power paradigms, the body is often a site of cultural dislocation. By working directly with the cultural messages and lessons that have been integrated, often unconsciously, onto the body and psyche, we can begin to create new stories, meanings and choices about being members of our communities and cultures. In my psychotherapy practice I work with people of all genders in the exploration of relationships to the self, to others, and to the communities in which we live. I have extensive experience working with queer, genderqueer, activist, and multicultural communities, queer parents and prospective parents, as well as kink/BDSM and poly communities, and the spaces where these identities overlap. I also teach queer and multicultural psychology and supervise students beginning their clinical fieldwork.

Kate Loree, LMFT, ATR, MBA
Licensed Marital and Family Therapist, Registered Art Therapist
Location: 15720 Ventura Blvd., Ste. 416, Encino, CA 91436; Free 30 minute consultation available.
310-422-7269; kloreelmft(at)

Brief statement: I am a kink-poly-LGBT affirmative licensed Marital and Family therapist with a speciality in the lifestyle and polyamorous relationships. I graduated from Loyola Marymount University in 2005 with a Masters in Marital and Family Therapy with a specialty in Art Therapy. My therapy style utilizes my understanding of alternative sexual communities in conjunction with an emphasis on insight, emotional healing, and empowerment to provide a therapy experience that allows for a higher level of safety and comfort. The therapy focus may or may not be about navigating the client's sexual journey, but even if the focus of therapy is about something entirely different (trauma, grief, or anxiety), the client will know that I will provide a non-judgmental space should such topics come up.

Cat Maness
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern
Location: 2006 Dwight Way, Ste 103 Berkeley, CA 94704
(510) 859-3880; therapy(at)

Brief Statement: Working under the guidance of my supervisor, I provide psychotherapy to adult individuals and couples seeking to break down both internal and external barriers, heal wounds and trauma, as well as those interested in establishing a healthier way of relating to others. As a sex positive psychotherapist, I welcome the rich diversity of the many communities and lifestyles found in the Bay Area. If you identify as LGBTQ, kinky or participate in the BDSM scene, as well as those in or considering a poly/open or alternative relationship, I hope that you will find the safety, respect, and understanding I strive to provide as an asset in our work together. Please know that I also include those who identify as heterosexual and/or monogamous as part of the spectrum of sexual diversity and are also quite welcome.

Catherine Meyer, MA, MFTI #72883
Marriage and Family Therapist Intern under the license of Wayne Lenz #35899
La Habra, CA
714-447-8782 x4

Brief statement: I am a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern and doctorate student, specializing in holistic psychotherapy and topics of sexuality. My work is inclusive of children and adults experiencing issues of anxiety, depression, major life changes, relationship issues, family issues, substance abuse, eating disorders, divorce, and more. My work is inclusive of kink, queer, polyamorous, gender variant, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual identities. At times we can feel as if the pressures of life and of the ideals of society are heavy on our shoulders and difficult to bear alone. I want to be there with you to help you identify your own desires, maintain your integrity, and cultivate your own inner strength to relieve the burden and thrive in your own chosen life.

Christine Milrod, PhD, LMFT, ACS
Licensed psychotherapist, sex therapy, Sex-and-Life Coaching
Location: West Hollywood, CA; worldwide on Skype
310-281-9658; info (at)

Brief statement: I specialize in Sex-and-Life Coaching and psychotherapeutic issues with an emphasis on human sexuality, evolutionary psychology, sexual and gender identities, and dealing with socially constructed gender roles. I am a member of AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists,) CAMFT (California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists), SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) and WPATH (World Professional Association for Transgender Health).

Pavini Moray, M.Ed
Somatic Sex Educator and Intimacy Coach
Serves San Francisco and East Bay
In-person sessions or phone consultations
pavinimoray (at)

Brief Statement: Pavini Moray offers somatic sex education and bodywork to individuals, couples and groups. Pavini's work is grounded in deep listening and loving kindness. Sessions are collaborative, nurturing and quickly transformative. This helps clients to deepen their pleasure, joyfully engage their bodies more fully, and enjoy supportive intimate relationships. Pavini brings years of teaching experience, training in sexuality, and personal growth work, all which create a container of acceptance and fun exploration.

Charles Moser, PhD, MD, FACP
Internal Medicine and Sexual Medicine
45 Castro Street, #125, San Francisco CA 94114
415-621-4369, docx2 (at)

Brief statement: Non-judgmental medical care, as well as treating the medical aspects of sexual concerns and sexual aspects of medical concerns

Felice Newman
Somatic Sex Coach
Location: San Francisco Bay area; phone consultations available
felice (at)

Brief Statement: I’m a somatic coach and sex educator, and the author of The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us (Cleis Press). I believe that everyone can have a fulfilling sex life. Whether you have one partner or many, you can have intimate sexual relationships that expand and deepen over time. When you have sex, you bring with you the whole package of who you are: your sexual history, your beliefs about sex and gender, your accumulated sexual wisdom, your erotic imagination and yearnings, and your physical structure. My work addresses all of these aspects from the viewpoint of your concerns. What do you want? What’s missing now? Where are you “stuck”? What new competencies do you need to develop to reach your goals? I combine sex education with somatic bodywork (fully clothed). We use breathwork, self-observation, and simple movement exercises to guide you toward the new skills, practices, and perspectives that would have you say that you are thoroughly delighted with your sex life.

Adrienne Parker-Morano, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (License # MFT 39605)
Location: 341 Broadway Suite 409 Chico, CA 95928; phone counseling sessions available
530-321-6148, spiralcreations (at)

Brief Statement: I’m a psychotherapist licensed in the state of California. My specialties are alternative relationship styles, polyamory, communication, spirituality, sexuality,truth-telling and life-coaching. I do both in office and distance counseling sessions.

Kaye Porter CHT, CNLP
Life Design - Coaching & Consulting
Location: Los Angeles, CA; Phone consultations available
510-684-4819 (San Francisco), 323-848-9964 (Los Angeles);

Brief statement: Master Certified Hypnotherapist, NeuroLinguistic Programmer, and active board member & consultant to the Los Angeles chapter of California Association for Marriage & Family Therapists; I've spent over 10 years studying and educating individuals and groups on human behavior, psychology, communications, gender communications, relationships and personal development. I've appeared on television and written articles. I've also worked with individuals and groups to have satisfying lives and partnerships with those around them. Experience has included relationship coaching, presentation & public speaking, professional communication & web copywriting, entrepreneurial focus groups, and performance consulting.

Rachel Robbins, Psy.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY22646)
Location: 459 Fulton St, Suite 105, San Francisco CA. Initial brief consultation by phone available.
415-625-9778; rachel(at)

Brief Statement: I provide psychotherapy for adults, young adults, and couples. I focus on trauma recovery, substance use and behavior change, impulse control, anxiety, and depression. Additionally, I am a long time sex educator and sex therapist and specialize in providing non-judgmental supportive services for a range of sexualities including LGBTQQ, BDSM, Kink, non-monogamy, gender fluidity, and sex workers. I help with working through issues with sexuality, and supporting kinky/LGBTQQ individuals with non-sexual concerns. I offer a sliding scale. Please feel free to contact me for more information or to schedule an appointment.

Jennifer Rehor
M.A., Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Intern (IMF74112)
Supervised by John McConnell, Ph.D., MFT (PSY 10673, MFC 23675)
Location: 3821 Front Street, San Diego, CA 92103
619-456-0830; Therapy (at)

Brief statement: I offer Individual Therapy and Couples/Relationship Therapy in San Diego, CA. I am caring, non-judgmental, and empathetic and my approach to therapy is collaborative - my role is to be a catalyst for the change you desire. I help individuals with anxiety, depression, life transitions, and personal growth. I’ve been trained in EMDR for treating past trauma.

For couples/relationship therapy, I have been trained in and use the framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy. This type of therapy is geared toward the importance of your attachment bonds with each other, recognizing the negative cycles where couples often get stuck, and learning how to change the way you relate to each other in a deeper and more meaningful way. I work within this framework for clients from a variety of relationship dynamics including open non-monogamy.

I am very familiar with the diversity of lifestyle and relationships found today. With my background in the field of sexology, I enjoy working with people who have issues or concerns about sexual health and people who want to increase their level of intimacy and sexual satisfaction. I provide a safe space to discuss delicate topics and my goal is to make each of my clients feel comfortable and understood.


Crista Underwood, LCSW
Location: 425 Gough St., San Francisco, CA 94102; free initial phone consultation
415-971-0654; cristaunderwoodlcsw(at)

Brief statement: I provide individual and relationship counseling and I specialize inworking with members of Bisexual, Transgender, Lesbian, Gay, Queer and Polyamorous, Kink, and Sex-positive communities to help them overcome internal and external barriers, know themselves and live life to the fullest. I especially enjoy collaborating with people in alternative relationship structures to help them build strong, lasting connections with their partners while maintaining their individuality.

Jill Valenti
Individual, Couples & Family Counselor
Location: Novato, CA (Marin County)
I offer phone consultations and in-person counseling services. Free half hour phone consultations are available.
415-302-0095; jillvalenti8(at)

Brief statement: I am a family counselor that has experience in working with couples who are new to exploring polyamorous lifestyles and who want to experience a deep bond of trust with their primary partners while exploring and navigating polyamory. My perspective is non-judgmental and informed from experience. My approach is compassionately challenging to support you in authoring your own transformational journey into modern relationships. I offer you help in developing resources for your journey, the conscious practices of soft boundaries, unconditional safety, vulnerability, authentic expression, deep democracy, individuation, compassion and clear seeing. I offer you help in acquiring a useful understanding of the inevitable strategies that can arise along the way of resisting, protecting, defending, performing, control, merging and judging. In an affirming way, I will always argue for your own unique perfection, everything that you are and are not.

Alaya Vautier, M.A.
Conflict Resolution and Communication Specialist, Restorative Dialogue Facilitator and Mediator
Location: Santa Cruz, CA (I will travel to the SF Bay Area as well)
In person, on the phone and over Skype
831-334-0407; alaya (at)

Do you and your partner/s want to get past an issue, need support for talking about what’s most difficult or want to align your goals so you work together more harmoniously? Are you craving more intimacy and a deeper connection in your relationship? Are you tired of miscommunications and struggling to be heard? Being deeply heard in a relationship can facilitate healing, deepen and strengthen your connection and open the door to healthier and happier relationships. Experience less conflict and jealousy, more balance and harmony and improved communication with your partner/s. Learn to communicate your needs with less anger and frustration and weather conflicts with more ease. Deep Listening sessions provide a non-judgmental and compassionate space for you to bring up difficult subjects, learn new communication skills and be deeply heard in a safe environment. I am a Certified Mediator and Restorative Processes professional. I listen with curiosity, compassion, respect and open-mindedness. My intention is to create a safe space for you to explore your most authentic self in your own way.

Nick Venegoni, Psychotherapist/LMFT & Certified Hypnotherapist
Location: San Francisco, 1801 Bush Street - near Japan Town
Phone consultations and sessions
Phone: 415-766-9629
Email: info[at]

Brief statement: Nick Venegoni is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist, offering holistic counseling in the San Francisco Bay Area. His work focuses on using mindfulness with clients struggling with anxiety and anger; specializing in working with men as well as people from the LGBT and queer communities.

Karin E. Wandrei, LCSW (LJ10609)
Licensed Psychotherapist
Sonoma, Mendocino, Marin, Napa and Lake Counties in northern California
Phone consultations and SKYPE sessions (SKYPE only for California residents)

Brief statement: I specialize in short-term therapy with individuals and couples. We'll decide what you would like to see different at the completion of our work. Our work will be tailored to your specific needs. How can I help you in your change process? By bringing in a fresh perspective. By helping you find solutions that work for you. By acknowledging how scary change can be. By providing you with support and a "yes you can do this" attitude. Everything we do is based on establishing a safe, respectful relationship. I use a variety of treatment approaches so we can develop a plan that will meet your individual needs rather than a one size fits all. These include psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, family therapy, feminist, humanistic, and mindfulness approaches. Specialty areas include coping skills, separation and divorce, loss and grief, peer relationships, self-esteem, anxiety or fears, career counseling and work issues, depression, life coaching, parenting issues, relationship issues, human sexuality, and LGBTQ issues.

Ilana Wasserman, MA, LMFT, LEP
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Licensed Educational Psychologist
Orange County, California, USA
714-856-8333; ilanawassermanmft(at)

Brief Statement: I am a Poly/Kink-friendly Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Educational Psychologist with a comprehensive practice in Orange County, California. I see children, teens, adults, couples, triads, quads etc and families with a wide variety of concerns and issues. I have specializations in the areas of polyamory, sexuality/gender, alternative/kink lifestyles, disability and the family, trauma, chronic illness, chronic pain, catastrophic illness and loss, grief, special education. Additionally, my practice includes a special interest in working with poly/kink clients and the unique concerns facing the poly/kink communities in everyday life and within the community. I offer a free short phone consultation. Please feel free to contact my office by phone, email or through my website.

Geri D. Weitzman, PhD
Psychologist (License # PSY17963)
Location: 885 N. San Antonio Road, Suite H, Los Altos, CA 94022.
408-338-5638; geriweitzman (at)

Brief statement: I am a licensed psychologist, practicing in Los Altos. I enjoy helping people to find creative ways to solve problems and become more fully themselves. I offer a warm and supportive environment that affirms the diversity of each individual. My specialties include: relationship counseling, depression, anxiety, self esteem, substance abuse, internet addiction, personal growth, anger management, codependency, emotional abuse survivor issues, career issues, and coming out. I welcome clients from a variety of subcultures, including bisexual, lesbian, gay, transgender, bdsm, polyamory, hiv/poz, pagan, goth, geek, etc. For those with insurance: I am a member of the following plans: Aetna, Anthem, Blue Cross, Blue Shield, Cigna, Magellan, Medicare, and United. Please reference this ad when first contacting me as I will sometimes keep a few slots open for alternative community members when my practice is otherwise full. Looking forward to meeting with you!

Jesse Whittle-Utter, MA
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Psychotherapist specializing in queer issues & alternative lifestyles/identities
Location: 3852 Piedmont Ave., Oakland, CA 94611
Phone consultations or sessions: Yes
510-740-8024, jes.rwu (at)

Brief statement: I provide depth-oriented psychotherapy to folks with a variety of issues, including depression, anxiety, trauma, grief and loss, interpersonal problems, questions of sexual identity, confusion around vocation and life purpose, and more. My style is warm, collaborative and candid. I have specialized training and ample experience working with the wonderfully diverse LGBTQQ community. This training has focused on issues specific to folks who identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Transsexual, Cross-dressing, Kink, BDSM, Sexually Fluid, Polyamorous, HIV+, Gay Adoptive Parents, and part of Step & Blended Families.

Winston Wilde
Doctor of Human Sexuality, Marriage & Family Therapist (CA License MFC39060), Certified Sex Therapist (AASECT)
Location: 152 Lasky Drive, Suite 103 Beverly Hills, CA 90212
323-692-9120, docwilde(at)

Brief statement: Dr. Wilde works mostly with erotic minority people (swingers, BDSM, polyfolk, fetishists) in individual, couple and family therapy.


Adam Zimbardo, MFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, AASECT-certified Sex Educator
Location: 509a 4th Street, Davis, CA 95616
530-579-2706, adamzmft (at)

Brief Statement: I have been working with nonmonogamous couples, open relationships, polyamory and BDSM/kink-identified clients for many years. I see individuals, couples, and triads, primarily focusing on short-term counseling and cognitive-behavioral therapy.


Bridget Blasius, MA
Willow Tree Counseling Services, LLC
613 Walnut St. Boulder, CO 80304
3035 W. 24th Ave. Denver, CO, 80211

303-995-8512; Bridget(at)

Brief statement: I specialize in working with depression, anxiety and PTSD (particularly from childhood abuse, domestic violence or sexual assault). I provide safe, supportive space for all genders, sexual orientations and relationship styles. My approach is warm and humanistic in nature. I practice an eclectic blend of therapies, drawing from body-oriented therapy in addition to more traditional methods. I also provide spiritual counseling and therapeutic ritual, while holding a commitment to religious diversity and honoring each client's unique spiritual path.

Taryn Bostwick, MA
Location: Serving Denver and Boulder areas in Colorado; free 30 minute consultation available.
720-304-5570; Taryn (at)

Brief Statement: I have 10 years of experience and I specialize in working with alternative relationships, alternative families and alternative sexualities. I also specialize in working with mixed relationships (poly/mono).

Tara Eastcott, Psy.D.
PsyD/ Psychotherapy and Psychological Assessments
Location: 1722 14th Street, Suite 130, Boulder, CO 8030 phone sessions on occassion with already established clients
720.236.2821; drt(at)

Brief statement: BENT: Psychological Services for Gender & Sexual Minorities.

Chuck Hancock, M.Ed., LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor and Psychotherapist
Location: Fort Collins, CO
Phone and Skype sessions available
970-556-4095; chuck(at)

Brief statement: There are a lot of ways to be human. There is no wrong way to be you. I work with adults practicing all varieties of relationship and sexuality to identify their best most authentic role and empower people to live it well. I utilize mindfulness and somatic psychotherapy in my individual and relationship counseling to help people see how their patterns are interacting with others we are in relationship and help people transcend their patterns for healthier relationships.

Reed Lindberg, M.A., L.P.C.
Licensed Professional Counselor
Location: 1140 Lehigh St., Boulder, CO 80305
303-494-0393; reed4321(at)

Brief statement: Reed Lindberg, M.A., L.P.C., is the Managing Director of the Boulder Psychotherapy Institute. Our Institute trains therapists in Applied Existential Psychotherapy and related approaches. Reed is a couples therapist with 20 years experience. He refers to his work as “Relationship, Sex and Romance Counseling”. Reed works with couples of all sexual orientations, and feels privileged to share in the inner and interpersonal worlds of his clients and to work with them on their personal and relationship issues. He works to restore playfulness and trust to a relationship that may have grown mired in everyday life. His therapy is a mutual exploration of a couple’s issues and strengths. He does work with both individuals and couples.


Tammy Nelson, MS, ATR, LPC, LADC
Director, Center for Healing
77 Danbury Road, Ridgefield, CT
357 Whitney Ave New Haven CT
203-438-3007, tammy(at)

Brief Statment: Tammy Nelson is the author of "Getting the Sex You Want" and "What's Eating You", and offers specializes in working with couples to increase the passion in their relationship using empathic dialogue and other forms of intimate commnication. Tammy is a Certified Sexologist, a Certified Imago Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor and a Registered Art Therapist. She is also the sexuality expert at the Mayflower Spa in Washington, CT, and teaches seminars around the country for DandS Associates on Relationship & Couples Therapy, Sexuality and Affairs & Infidelity.

Betty E. Rich, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
22 5th Street
Stamford, CT 06905
203-353-9402, brichphd(at)
Brief statement: I am a licensed Clinical Psychologist with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals enhance their lives and recover from difficult or traumatic life experiences. Psychotherapy is provided for adults and older adolescents struggling with issues such as stress, anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties and coming-out issues. Areas of particular expertise include: Treatment of trauma survivors (PTSD); EMDR therapy; Work with LGBTQ individuals and their family members; Work with individuals in polyamorous and other nontraditional relationship structures such as Mixed-Orientation relationships.

Janet K. Rose, JD, Mediator
Denver metro area and other parts of Colorado upon request
I do all initial consultations over the phone, however, because mediations involve me working with at least two other people, I do prefer to conduct the session(s) face-to-face. I offer a Skype option if that is necessary.
(303) 902-6009; rosesolutionsco(at)
Facebook page

Brief Statement: I offer mediation and conflict resolution for families, schools, and non-profits. I aim to create an environment that empowers parties to be consciously aware of the impact of their words and actions, find solutions that best suit their interests and thus more peacefully resolve conflicts. Primarily I prefer to work with families and have successfully mediated several complex family law cases at every stage of the process. I have extensive experience with LGBTQ concerns and modern, cooperative family structures, such as polyamory, that allow me to provide a non-judgmental and compassionate atmosphere for resolution of most family conflicts. I also offer options for long-distance mediation via Skype.

P. Michele Sugg
MSW, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
Location: 184 Maple St., Branford CT 06405

Brief statement: Over 25 years of experience, training at Masters and Johnson Institute, 18 years at Yale Psychiatric Institute prior to private practice. Sex Therapy Advisor to Alexander Foundation for Women’s Health. Philosophy: Every individual has the right to an enjoyable, guilt free, fulfilling sex life. Eclectic approach to help attain therapeutic goals. Caring, confidential, treatment.


Michael Giordano, LICSW
Psychotherapist/Clinical Social Worker - LICSW
Washington, DC - Dupont Circle; Sessions in person and by phone in specific cases
202-460-6384, Mike.Giordano.MSW(at)

Brief Statement: I provide compassionate and affirming psychotherapy for individuals and folks in all kinds of relationships. You're free to speak about your loves, desires, and sex life in all of its diversity without judgement. Whatever your concern - and it may have nothing to do with your sexuality - together we will find ways to enhance your creative thinking, express authentic emotions, and make effective actions.

Asha Gray, LPC (Licenced Professional Counselor)
1426 Pennsylvania Ave SE, Washington, DC - Serving the DC metro area
202-321-9715; ashagraylpc (at)

I am a licensed professional counselor in the District of Columbia and the state of IL. Fulfillment for me is helping my clients achieve the skills and techniques they need to feel satisfied, able to manage their situations and acquire their goals. I come from a varied background having worked in fields from martial arts instructor to zoo keeper but always in the teaching and caregiver role. In 2007, I switched gears and acquired my Masters in Forensic Psychology at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. During my internship, work and life experience I’ve gained knowledge in treating a forensic population, survivors of violence/trauma/abuse, major mental health disorders, depression, anxiety, stress and working with those in the LGBTQ, kink and poly/ethical non-monogamy populations. I have a particular interest in working with clients for sex therapy, poly or ethical non-monogamy relationships and gender identity growth.

Rebecca Hiles
Dating and Relationship Coaching, Dating Profile Consultations
Location: Northern Virginia and DC
Phone consultations, and in person or Skype sessions
724-SEX-EDU1; Rebecca (at)

Brief statement: I have been involved in polyamory since I was in my late teens. I've been working in the sexual health and education field since 2008 and I have been speaking publicly about my experiences since 2011. As a dating and relationship coach, I focus on personal advocacy and teaching people the skills to advocate for themselves in all relationships! Appointments are available and rates are affordable.

Shervon Laurice, MS, LCPC, LPC
Locations: 1400 East West Highway, Suite OH, Silver Spring, Maryland 20910 and 1050 17th Street, NW, Suite 800, Washington, District of Columbia 20036
Phone: (301) 873-4457

Brief Statement: It is my joy to work with adults & teens on issues including depression, anxiety, stress, sexual identity/GLBTQ, traditional & alternative lifestyle relationships, spirituality and person growth. I practice an eclectic approach to therapy that includes Humanistic, Cognitive Behavioral & Mindfulness-based theories that help clients "clear away the mud" from the lenses with which they see themselves. Many of us live stress filled lives while balancing everyday life issues with symptoms of depression and anxiety. I can help you better manage those symptoms so that you can enjoy a happier and healthier life. Evening and daytime appointments are available. Both offices are easily accessible by metro. Paid parking available. Both offices are wheelchair accessible.

Vincent T. Lyon, Attorney at Law
Location: Maryland and the District of Columbia.
240-210-4301; vlyon (at)

Brief Statement: I have been practicing law in Maryland and DC since 2005. I litigate in all areas of the law and have extensive experience in personal injury and family law cases. I have a particular fondness for law relating to the arts. I am open-minded about the many ways people choose to live and the ways they do (and don't) get along. The law gets into everyone's lives and if you find yourself needing legal help, you want someone you are comfortable with and who is comfortable with you.

Kristina Oseth (Kris Oseth)
Psychotherapist, Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Personal Trainer
Location: Washington, DC (Dupont)
I offer free consultations
202-600-8353; krisoseth(at)

Brief Statement: I will work with you to illuminate the meaning of your experience and help you practice greater self acceptance. I specialize/hold knowledge in the following areas: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual issues; Transgender/Genderqueer transitioning process and development issues; Kink-aware and accepting of polyamorous/non-monogamous relationships; Issues related to sex work; Recovery from substance abuse and addiction; Harm Reduction for clients interested in continuing substance use; Personal Training/Exercise and Fitness

Tamara Pincus, LICSW
Location: 1050 17th St, NW Suite 800 Washington DC 20036
240-305-8315; tpincus76(at)

Brief Statement: The goal of my practice is to provide a safe place for people to explore their lives and learn skills to help them cope. One of the first things that you will notice is that I will not judge you and I will not think you are “crazy”. We will work together to help you figure out what issues you want to work on and how we can best address them. Together we can change behaviors, resolve issues and help reduce pain and suffering. I am a certified sex therapist and also certified to treat co-occurring mental health and substance abuse disorders. I have extensive experience working with depressive and anxious symptoms. I have a special interest in supporting individuals through issues related to sexual exploration sexual identity and gender identity. I have experience working with kinky and polyamorous clients and I am interested in helping people create better communication in their relationships so that they can get what they need out of them.

Dr. Marc Richman
Board Certified Urologist specializing in Men's Sexual Health
Washington DC Metro
703-940-5815; cass (at)

Brief statement: After practicing general urology for over 10 years, Marc and his partner Dr. Shane Geib decided to open Obsidian Men's Health. They hope to bring a physician's expertise while offering a comprehensive approach to sexual dysfunction. In our research, we have not found any urologists that exclusively do this.


Dominey Drew
MS., Life and Relationship Coach Specializing in Alternative and Exceptional Relationships
Orlando, Florida
Sessions Available via Phone and Skype
321-236-2496, Dominey (at)

Brief Statement: I am a student and a teacher of Passion. I have a Master's in Transpersonal Psychology and over 10 years of experience studying consciousness and relationships, globally. I specialize in alternative relationships, all forms of sexuality, and help to bring clarity and healing to couples and individuals. I give empowering workshops in my local community, and travel for teaching and public speaking events. I am available for private coaching either in person or via phone or Skype.

George Kallas, Ph.D., Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist
Location: The Orion Center for Psychotherapy, 2312 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 333-5
954-987-0280, drgjkallas (at)

Brief Statement: GLBT, Lifestyle/Swinger, and Poly-Friendly therapist with an eclectic therapy style.

Emy Tafelski, MA
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern (IMT1943)
Tampa Bay area, with offices in Clearwater, St. Petersburg and Tampa
727-735-1257, etafelski2 (at)

Brief Statement: I offer empowering, open-minded therapy to individuals, couples, partners and families via individual sessions and group sessions in order to help people live their best, most authentic lives, have their best relationships and live up to their highest potential. I have experience and training in working with those living alternative lifestyles, including poly, swing, kink, and open relationships. My practice is a place where people can come and be who they are, without fear of that judgment. I offer coaching services (but not therapy) over the phone and via Skype.


Dave Berman, C.Ht.
Hypnotherapy, Laughter Therapy, Coaching
Atlanta, GA and online sessions via Skype
Free 15 minute consultation for all new clients
707-845-3749; dave (at)

Brief Statement: I use hypnosis, unconditional laughter, mindfulness and other mind/body approaches. The most common reasons people seek my help are to: quit smoking; eliminate panic attacks, anxiety or stress; relieve chronic pain; improve self esteem; and experience more laughter, joy and satisfaction in life. I've been part of the sex-positive community since 2009 and welcome clients of any gender-, relationship-, kink- or lifestyle-orientation.

Natalie Elliott, LAPC
Licensed Associate Professional Counselor
Location: 581-B N. Central Ave, Hapeville, GA 30354; brief phone consults are available
888-788-4624 ext. 11; NatalieElliott(at)

Brief Statement: Providing support in a private practice setting with relational and sexual issues to help you love "more" successfully!

Rachel Anne Kieran, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist, GA License PSY003129
2801 Buford Highway, Suite T-10, Atlanta, GA 30315
Phone consultations: Yes, telepsychology sessions via an encrypted, secure online service
404-695-1100, rkieranpsyd (at) gmail (dot) com

Brief Statement: Dr. Kieran is a licensed psychologist in private practice in the Atlanta area providing individual and couples counseling/psychotherapy, in addition to some assessment services. Her practice focuses on growth/insight oriented work, and work with depression, anxiety, diversity, stress management, identity and relationship-related concerns. Licensed in the State of Georgia, Dr. Kieran has been providing therapy services for over ten years, and in private practice for six. Dr. Kieran’s practice is open and accepting to all, and has a particular emphasis on the importance of multiple identities in the lives of patients. This includes knowledge and experience in areas of sexual, gender and relational diversity including sexual and affectional identity/orientation, transgender issues, queer theory, BDSM and kink, polyamory and other non-monogamies.

Alexandra Tyler, LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, GA Lic. # CSW-005566
Individual and Relationship Psychotherapy
2801 Buford Highway, Suite T-10, Atlanta, GA 30329
HIPAA secure teleconference sessions available.
404-397-8302, Alexandra.Tyler (at)

Brief Statement: I am an experienced LCSW in the Atlanta area with several specializations. I provide services in person and via a HIPAA secure video conference system for clients anywhere in the state of Georgia. I work primarily with people in the polyamorous, Kink, BDSM and LGBTQQAI communities and provide therapy that is sex-positive, knowledgeable and affirming of these community members. I do relationship/couples work, individual work (depression, anxiety, trauma, grief/loss, addiction, etc.) and work with transmen and transwomen. I have extensive training and experience working with clients diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (or others struggling with strong emotions that feel out of control.) I also have experience working with children, teens and their families, particularly those struggling with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Conduct Disorder and other childhood issues. And finally, I treat both chemical and behavioral addictions. I am paneled with Medicare, and I will soon be paneled with Amerigroup and BCBS. I also have a sliding scale for cash paying clients.


Jason Best, LCSW
Multiple Locations in Schaumburg, IL and the north side of Chicago.
Phone consultations and sessions available.
847-271-1222, Jasonbestlcsw (at) gmail (dot)com

Brief statement: If you're like most of my patients, you've come to this website because you need help and you want to talk to someone who you can trust to understand your issues. I have an extensive background in treating depression, anxiety, and bipolar issues with many different populations. I also have worked with many couples and families for a variety of treatment issues. However, while skilled and experienced therapists are rare, this probably isn't the main reason you're coming to this website. I am also very knowledge about kinky and non-monogamous practice, and I am familiar with many of the local resources. I've worked with kinky and non-monogamous patients in both individual and in relationship counseling to resolve a variety of issues unique to our community, and I look forward to working with you as well.

Rami Henrich, LCSW, psychotherapist
Location: Chicago, IL and north suburbs
Consultation by appointment only
847-242-8888, ramihenrich (at)

Brief Statement: I know that those attempting to live in a non-mainstream relationship may face special difficulties and challenges that sometimes complicate or aggravate their personal lives. I believe you already have what you need inside of yourself to have a meaningful life, to solve and resolve problems, to be joyful and content. As a therapist, my job is to help you access a deep sense of knowing, your own source of creativity and your true nature. I offer individual and relationship psychotherapy and also host several support groups including: Women's Support Group, Queer Identity Support Group and a Polyamory Support Group.

Sarah Sloane
Life coach / communications & relationship coach
Location: Chicago area; phone / email consultations
sarah.sloane (at)

Brief Statement: Sarah Sloane is an educator and coach focusing particularly on working with clients who self identify as polyamorous, kinky, queer, and other sexual / gender minorities. Sarah’s commitment to clients is to work with them to identify areas of challenge and blockage in all areas of their lives, and support them in goal creation and attainment, using her coaching skills, her compassion, and her knowledge in the areas of time management, organization, and mission statement / goal creation and planning.

Kristen Wright, PsyD therapist/counselor
Individual, Family, Group Sessions in private practice setting
4753 N Broadway #608 Chicago, IL 60640
773.633.0866, dr.kristen.wright (at)

Brief Statement: Therapy is about creating a safe space for you to be able to explore yourself and the situations in your life. I work with individuals, couples and families (with no judgments about how you many define your family) and groups for therapy. My current focus in psychology is working with gender and sexual minorities. I am comfortable with the idea of my clients as the expert on themselves and I am the bringer of a psychologically-based toolkit to the journey that is therapy. I believe what is meaningful to an individual is highly important. I am also qualified to provide psychological assessment.


Relationship and individual counseling, life and relationship coach, family business consultant, eap

Primary location: 105 Daventry Lane, Suite 205, Louisville, KY 40223
Secondary location: Scottsburg, IN 47170 and surrounding counties of southern Indiana.

Online and telephone therapy is available if you reside in the states of Kentucky or Indiana
Coaching services are available via online video chat, telephone, and email

502.594.2829 and 812.716.2787; csoak (at)

Brief Statement: I am an experienced provider of services for individuals, couples, and families dealing with emotional, behavioral, and relational issues including alternative lifestyles; infidelity; anxiety; depression; grief/loss; isolation; life-transition; and stress. Having studied various spiritual paths, my perspective is broad and deep allowing me to assist clients to access inner resources and wisdom.

Lara M. West, LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor, therapist
Location: 2512 Covington St., West Lafayette, IN 47906. Serving the greater Lafayette and northern Indianapolis area
765-497-3932, ext 95: 317-956-2030 for emergency or after hours contact
laramwest (at)

Brief statement: Using a realistic, strengths-based approach (and some humor), I work provide a safe, non-judgmental and objective atmosphere for clients to explore possibilities for acceptance and change.


Ann Newman, PA-C
Physician Assistant
Location :Ottumwa Family Practice Clinic 623 Pennsylvania Ave Ottumwa Iowa 52501; serving all of SE iowa.

Brief statement: I'm a licensed primary care physician assistant who is comfortable with poly, kinky, and LGBT patients.


Relationship and individual counseling, life and relationship coach, family business consultant, eap

Primary location: 105 Daventry Lane, Suite 205, Louisville, KY 40223
Secondary location: Scottsburg, IN 47170 and surrounding counties of southern Indiana.

Online and telephone therapy is available if you reside in the states of Kentucky or Indiana
Coaching services are available via online video chat, telephone, and email

502.594.2829 and 812.716.2787; csoak (at)

Brief Statement: I am an experienced provider of services for individuals, couples, and families dealing with emotional, behavioral, and relational issues including alternative lifestyles; infidelity; anxiety; depression; grief/loss; isolation; life-transition; and stress. Having studied various spiritual paths, my perspective is broad and deep allowing me to assist clients to access inner resources and wisdom.


Krista A. H. Haapala, M.S.W., Sexologist
Individual and Relational Coach
Location: Portland, Maine
207.415.1080; krista (at)

Brief Statement: Krista Haapala is a life coach, sexuality educator and sexologist. Krista is the founder of Living Balance and a member of the American Counseling Association and the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists; she holds a Master of Social Work degree from the Boston College Graduate School of Social Work. Her coaching with you is a holistic, forward-looking, solution-focused, educational and skill-building relationship. In cases where therapy is more appropriate or beneficial, she will provide a referral to another qualified professional. Krista enjoy working with individuals and diverse relationships, and is kink, poly and vanilla friendly and knowledgable embracing the diversity of sexuality.


(please also see Vincent Lyon, Attorney at Law and Shervon Laurice, MS, LCPC under the District of Columbia listing)

Samantha Francis
Licensed Acupuncturist
Location: Brunswick MD and Columbia MD
703-400-7170; samanthal.francis(at)

Brief Statement: Private acupuncture practice in Central Maryland or Columbia MD. I work with people with chronic conditions to bring ease to their symptoms and their lives, by using acupuncture and sharing tools for communication and seasonal living. When your head is getting in the way, acupuncture can reach that deeper place to bring you peace. Poly and Kink Aware.

Joe James, Ph.D.
Location: 4400 East West Highway, Suite 712 Bethesda, MD 20814, in person sessions and phone consultations
DrJoe (at)

Brief Statement: I have been working with individuals, couples, triads, foursomes and moresomes from the swinging, polyamory and BDSM communities in the Washington, D.C. area since 1995. I strive to create a warm and nonjudgmental atmostphere in which people can comfortably explore the issues they are struggling with. Whether you are seeking therapy for reasons related to your lifestyle or for reasons unrelated, you can rest assured that I am knowledgeable and accepting of that aspect of your life.

Cathy Roberts
Professional counselor/coach (MD LC1559)
Location: Rockville, MD
301-651-0019; cathy(at)

Brief statement: I promote and affirm healthy relationships. If your relationship with yourself, partner, parent, or child is unsatisfying, my empathic approach may appeal to you. I create a safe, accepting environment for you to explore your needs and connect with your desires. In addition, I am direct, practical and experienced working with poly and LGBT clients.

Tanisia Smith, BA, LMT, NCBTMB
Licensed Massage Therapist
Location: 8700 Old Harford Road, Suite L5B, Parkville MD 21234
443-803-4876; info (at)

Brief Statement: I offer massage therapies, Reiki healing, and intuitive counseling to help clients let go of muscle aches and pains, live better with anxiety, depression, and body image concerns, and experience a profound peace and physical reintegration. Treatments I offer help clients rediscover their joy, their freedom of movement, and their ability to fall wholeheartedly into the juicy pulp of life. I specialize in relaxation therapies, from an Esalen-influenced massage to hot stone therapy, myofascial release, and Reiki treatments. A kink-friendly, poly-friendly professional, I extend an exuberant welcome to plus-sized and transgendered clients.



Kamela Dolinova
Rubenfeld Synergist (talk and touch healer), Relationship/Sexuality Counseling
Boston area
Phone consultations or sessions?: Yes
617-233-1498; kamela (at)

Brief statement: People who are exploring questions of gender, sexuality, or relationship styles can feel alone, abnormal, or unlovable. I show them how to accept themselves in their beauty and strength, so they can experience loving connection in their lives.

For those who have experienced trauma - whether from the above groups or from any walk of life - the body can become alien, emotions overwhelming, and the world a hostile place. I help trauma survivors find their ground, connect to their resources, and regain trust in their own bodies as their most precious resource.

I am certified in the Rubenfeld Synergy Method , a gentle, powerful healing modality that uses talk, touch, and movement to address the whole individual. We will always move at your pace, finding gentle, respectful ways to enter into conversation with your body, and shift the way you move in your life.

Magdalena J. Fosse, MA, MS, PsyD
Clinical psychologist
678 Massachusetts Ave, Cambridge, MA 02139
617-642-0263; drfosse (at)

Brief statement: Relationships and sexuality are the source of our most conflicted feelings, from passion to anguish, joy to betrayal, hope to despair. We’re always in a relationship, whether it’s with one, many, or none. We continue relating to those who are no longer actively present in our lives, but whose legacy is still affecting us, for better or for worse. We’re also in a relationship with our sexuality, whether we have sex or not, desire it or struggle with it.

As a sex and relationships therapist, I aim at creating a positive, non-judgmental space in which questions, fears, and doubts can be addressed. I work with individuals and couples in non-normative forms of relationships, poly, poly-curious, open, and kink. My clients are straight, gay, bi, queer, transitioning, or questioning, If you wonder about any of the above, give me a call.

Ruth Garrott, PsyD
269 Washington Street
Somerville, MA 02143 (Union Square)
(617) 642-3193; therapy (at)

Brief Statement: I am a clinical psychologist, working with individuals, couples, and polyamorous constellations. I'm experienced in working with poly clients, kinky clients, and LGBTQetc clients, as well as with genderqueer clients and trans clients in all stages of transitioning. My approach is client-centered and solution-focused, with a psychodynamic background, and use of behavioral techniques as needed. I accept Blue Cross/Blue Shield PPO, and offer a sliding scale to help people afford the treatment they need.

My assumption is that my clients are the best experts on their lives and their needs. We'll work together to figure out how to best help you to change what you want to change about your life, and strengthen what's already working. I'm glad to help you do what you need to do to get your life moving in the directions you want it to, whether it's teach you skills to deal with immediate problems like depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic symptoms, help you learn to communicate with your partner(s), or explore with you how your past experiences affect your emotions and worldview today.

Melissa J. Kaplan
Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC)
Location: 2 Enon St., Beverly MA 01915; free phone consultations are available.

Brief Statement: I provide client-centered non-judgemental individual therapy. I comfortable working with people who identity as polyamorous, kinky, queer, gay, lesbian, transgender, genderqueer and am familiar with the particular difficulties faced by people in these populations. In 2003 I received my Masters degree from Lesley University and have been practicing ever since. You can read more about my approach and training on my website.

Randi Kaufman, PsyD
Clinical Psychologist
1218 Massachusetts Ave., Cambridge, MA, 02138
617-441-2100; randi.kaufman2(at)

Brief statement : I am a poly/kink/GLBTQ-friendly psychologist, and have been providing psychotherapy for folks with alternative lifestyles for over 10 years.

Karen S. Marans, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist
Location: Metro Boston area
781-434-6574; marans (at)

Brief statement: Poly-friendly psychologist with many years of experience working with individuals and couples to build and maintain respectful and healthy relationships.

Maria Merloni, MSW, LICSW
Therapist (MSW), life coach, LICSW (licensed, independent, clinical social worker)
Location: Central MA
Free 30 min. consultation for anyone who wants one
774-289-4134 and 508-476-3303; mariamerlonilifecoach (at)

Brief statement: I have been a therapist for 20 years and a life coach for 10. I work with those 18 years old and up. I see individuals, couples, and families in person, or via phone or Skype. I do take health insurance for those that can be seen in person, and I also do a sliding scale fee for those who cannot. I am not only poly friendly, I am also a bisexual, poly, kink person myself. I work with gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered clients, and I am kink-friendly. I specialize in relationships and sexuality, and also work with depression, anxiety, self-love, addictions, discovering/engaging in one's life purpose, meditation, and breathwork. I believe that the foundations for having a joyful life and relationsihp are: conscious communication, trust (of self and others), appreciation, self-love, frequent sexual and non-sexual touch, and a committment to expressing one's creativity/life purpose. Those are the guiding principles with which I do my work.

Bill Slaughter, MD MA
MD psychiatrist, psychotherapist
49 Hancock St, Cambridge MA 02139 (serving Boston metropolitan area); some phone sessions possible

Brief Statement: Since 1985 I've worked in the human potential/healthcare field with people in many situations. My initial training was at a buddhist school and since then Jungian analytic and contemporary psychiatric training have also been very influential to how I work. Polyamorous arrangements and sexuality/relatedness issues in general are issues which come up in my practice frequently, as well as other common challenges such as life choices, direction, and transitions, as well as mood, substance use, spirituality, attention and mindfulness, anxiety, and the like. I'm happy to talk initially briefly by phone if you like to see if an initial meeting might make sense and be possible. Sliding fee scale; flexible payment arrangements possible; many insurances accepted; out-of-network coverage likely for others.

Michelle Wexelblat, MSW, LICSW
Location: 55 Middlesex Street Suite 209, N. Chelmsford, MA 01863
I do not do phone sessions, will do consultations and provider education.
978-436-1764; mwexelblat (at)

Brief statement: I am a trauma-informed therapist who works with people ages 14-114 of diverse gender and sexuality; I see individuals, families, & groups, as well as provide relationship therapy.
I have several areas of focus. One if trauma. I have a certificate in EMDR. I also have experience working with people who identify as LGBTQIPK. I am also available to provide training to other clinicians or groups on treatment for LGBTQIPK.
I describe myself as "not your usual therapist." I'm dynamic, strength based, and treat all clients as the expert in their lives. In addition, for intakes, I do not ask my clients to go through describing the worst times in their lives. Focus is making things better, not worse.


Eric S Blumberg, Ph. D., LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
Location: Bonaventure Center, 11111 Hall Road, Suite 303, Utica, MI 48317
office: 586-997-3153 (general clinic questions such as insurances accepted); cell: 248-416-0685 (for appointments)
esblumberg (at)

Brief statement: Sexologist and counselor/therapist providing lifestyle sensitive counseling to poly, kink, and LGBT people. Knowledgeable about and accepting of alternative lifestyles. Provides warm and genuine therapy and relationship counseling/coaching to all, based on the issues brought in rather than vanilla community judgmental expectations about what “should” be worked on. With my sexologist hat I provide coaching in the areas Tristan writes about and films, and I am an expert at coaching men and women on extending their sexual pleasure to include multiple (mostly women) and extended up to 1/2 hour (men and women) orgasms. Very experienced in working with highly sexual women to discuss any issues that may be arising from this normal but higher than usual desire aspect of their lives.


Melanie Alford, LICSW
Individual and Couples Therapist
Twin Cities Metro - offices in Minneapolis and Eagan
Sessions only. In-network for most major insurance companies.
612-246-6689; melanie (at)

Brief statement: I am a queer, kink, sex and poly-positive therapist located in the Minneapolis area. I have personal experience in kink, poly and open relationships, and enjoy working with couples who are exploring nonmonogomy as well as those who have a long history of nonmonogomous relationships. My specialy is to work with couples, triads, etc in order to improve communication and negotiation skills, and to help uncover the reasons why behaviors don't always match the agreements that were made.

Psychotherapist / Consultant
Location: 3204 18th Avenue S., Suite 5, Minneapolis MN 22407
Phone: 612-722-7877

Brief Statement: I am familiar with poly culture and is supportive to that and other minority groups, and a proponent of Sex Positivity. Theoretical approach is Ericksonian Utilization, using Cognitive-Behavioral Restructuring, hypnotherapy, EMDR, Gestalt as each client needs. I accept most insurance plans; individual adult clients only at this time.

Ashley Sovereign, PsyD, LP
Licensed Psychologist; psychotherapy and consultation
366 Selby Ave. South, Suite 306, St. Paul, MN 55102

Brief statement: I have been providing psychotherapy and counseling services for over 20 years and have specialized experience working with a wide range of clients with nontraditional/alternative sexual or relational identities that include polyamory, polyfidelity, kink, LGBTQQI, & BDSM, and nonmonogamy. My approach to psychotherapy is collaborative and existential, and I incorporate a variety of treatment methods as appropriate, including cognitive-behavioral, process-experiential, narrative and solution-focused strategies. I strive to create an environment in therapy where clients feel supported and challenged to explore their fears, discover their strengths, and thrive.

G Zachariah White, PsyD, LP
Licensed Psychologist, Sex Therapist
Location: Minneapolis/St. Paul
612-208-9739; gzwhite(at)

Brief statement: I am a queer licensed psychologist and sex therapist. I have specialized training and clinical experience in the areas of sexuality and gender identity and would like to help you overcome whatever it is that interferes with your sexual, emotional, or relational health. I will work with you to create a safe and compassionate space where you can see yourself and your problem in a new light.

Mary Woodward-Kreitz, MA, LP, CST
Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist
3345 Lexington Ave. S., Suite 102, Eagan, MN 55121
651-454-4343 (phone), 651-454-9494 (fax):

Brief Statement: I am a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist. I work with adults, kids, couples and families related to issues of sexuality and/or general practice. Most form of insurance accepted.


Inara de Luna
Relationship Coach & Sexuality Educator
Kansas City metro area in person / nationwide via phone & video

Brief statement: Inara de Luna is a bisexual, polyamorous, kinky pagan who is also a Relationship Coach and a Sexuality Educator. She is a Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Specialist, with training and experience as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Inara is a sex positive activist, a published author, and a national presenter. She prefers to support those whose identities fall outside the mainstream norms, such as those who identify as LGBTQ, polyamorous or non-monogamous, and those who practice BDSM in some form.


Kristen Lilla
Certified Sex Therapist
Omaha metro
Phone consultations only

Brief Statement: Kristen Lilla is both a Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Kristen is here to help enhance the lives of individuals and couples through the use of psychotherapy. She provides sex therapy and education to improve personal relationships, address sexual concerns, enhance sexual pleasure, and work through personal trauma that may be affecting intimate relationships. Kristen is LGBT affirming, kink-aware, and poly-friendly.


see: M. Francesca Gentille under California




Bo Blaze, PCC.
Certified Professional Alternative Coach
Location: Asbury Park, NJ
(also NYC area for in-person sessions; anywhere in world via phone)
201-825-1313, 925-252-5293

Brief statement: Let me help you PLAY BETTER IN YOUR ALTERNATIVE LIFE!" - I’ll support & challenge you every step of the way towards creating your own authentic life, on your own terms! Together we'll figure out what you really want, who you really are, what you really need, and then make it happen! I've been a leader in the Kink community for many years and specialize in Polyamory, BDSM, Power Dynamics, Alternative Relationships/Sexuality, the Entertainment Industry and other Non-Traditional Lifestyles. I'm PCC certified by the ICF - International Coach Federation and a graduate of the "Center for Coaching Mastery" at Coachville. I’m an Emeritus board member of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) in NYC as well as their Novice Facilitator since 2002


Samantha Armer
MSW -- Clinical Therapist
Albany, NY
Phone consultations or sessions?: No
347-559-5869, office 518-438-2222, L.Samantha.Armer (at)

Brief statement: I work from a family systems perspective - which means I do not view you in a vacuum, I want to know about all your environments and your connections. My background includes a sex positive/kink positive frame. I specialize in working with: the LBGTQ population, adolescents, and pregnancy/postpartum concerns.

Bruce Berman, PhD
Psychologist. Certified in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). Providing Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy, Sex Therapy, Divorce Coaching, and Parenting Coordination.
Location: 211 West 56th ST, Suite 34D, New York, NY 10019
(212) 265-3594; bbermanpsych(at)

Brief Statement: I am a seasoned therapist who specializes in working with relationship and sexual issues. My experience includes working with straight, gay, lesbian, kink-inclined, and polyamorous individuals and couples as well as couples where the partners are from cross-cultural backgrounds.

Dr. Michael DeMarco
LMFT, LMHC, Executive Director of Our Collective Mental Health
New York, NY; phone & in person consultations available
212-343-7008; info(at) Alternate website:

Brief statement: Affordable and effective therapy that is down to earth. My staff and I want to teach you the tools to allow yourself to BE who you ARE and get what you want out of relationships. One size does NOT fit all.

Melanie Downs, LMHC (Licensed Mental Health Counselor)
New York Metropolitan Area, Union Square neighborhood

Brief Statement: At the heart of my therapy practice is the core belief that individuals are the experts on their own lives. We provide empathic therapy to help people explore the areas of their lives where pain has emerged in order for people to take back their lives.

Kristin Keefe, Mental Health Counselor – Limited Permit
Location: 87 Fort Greene Place, Brooklyn New York, and in Manhattan.
Contact: 646-801-4140, kkeefe123(at)

Brief Statement: I am a warm and supportive therapist. I work with individuals and couples on personal identity and expression, sexuality, relationship, career direction, managing stress and recovering from loss. My practice is LGBTQI friendly, and I am knowledgeable about alternative lifestyle choices, including polyamory and kink. My post-graduate training is through the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. I use both psychodynamic and cognitive approaches to help people recover from setbacks, address trauma, decrease anxiety, recover from depression, build resilience, and create authentic and enjoyable lives. I offer free phone consultations and sliding scale fees.

Gracie Landes
AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
138 w 25 st, suite 625, New York NY 10001
917-238-0170, smftnyc (at)
Phone consultations available.

Brief Statement: I work with individuals, couples and families of every type, configuration and level of sexual experience. I have a special interest in working with sexual and other minorities, and people not easily categorized. Increasingly my practice has come to include those who identify as kinky, alternative, in open relationships, those who want to enter those worlds, and those who have entered them inadvertently and need a way to situate themselves. I find that when clients to have a place to examine ethical aspects of their relationship issues they are able to find creative solutions to complex problems.

Liz Lipman-Stern, LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist
Individual and Relationship Counseling; Sexuality, Gender, and Sex Therapy
New York Metropolitan area; anywhere via phone or Skype
908.420.0898, elipmanstern(at)

Brief Statement: I want to help you with your life, not "cure" you of your lifestyle. With over 20 years as a therapist, I strive to provide an emotionally safe, respectful and caring environment in which to help people understand themselves better and learn new ways to live their lives with power, compassion, and joy.

Mandy Manuel, Therapist, M.A., Ed.M
New York City
Phone and in person consultations available
917-525-2205; info(at)

Brief Statement: Affordable therapy in NYC. Explore relationship options in a non-judgmental environment. Sessions are tailored to the individual's/couple's needs as every person and relationship is unique.

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson
Tantra Teachers
Location: New York Metropolitan area
914-962-7328, info (at)

Brief Statement: We have been teaching Tantra and Kriya Yoga together since 1999. We are the authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality, a National Best Books 2007 Award-Winner in the Health: Sexuality category and an Award-Winning Finalist in the Religion: Eastern Religions category, and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment. We also wrote and appeared in two instructional DVDs: “Tantric Sexual Massage for Lovers” and “Advanced Tantric Sex Secrets” (Alexander Institute, 2008), and have contributed articles to various online and print publications, including Chronogram and Debonair. We’re available for group workshops and private instructions and honor all consensual forms of sexual expression.

Mark Murray, Murray and Hopkins, Esqs.
General Practice of Law
132 Clyde St., West Sayville, NY 11796; serving the NY Metropolitan Area & Long Island. Phone consultations available.
631-234-0909; mark(at)

Brief Statement: We are a small firm with extensive experience in handling all legal matters for our clients, many of whom live alternative lifestyles. We are a general practice litigation firm with a very good reputation in the areas of estate planning and business organization or succession. We get most of our new clients from other clients and lawyers satisfied with our service, compassion, discretion and results. Our office is conveniently located near the Fire Island Ferries and we will travel to meet with our clients. We have an international client base but most are located in southern NY state. We can also often help through electronic meetings but since we are admitted to practice in NY, we are most helpful to NY residents and businesses.

Reid Mihalko
Sex and Relationship Coach and Educator
Location: New York Metro Area (also San Francisco, Los Angeles, Las Vegas); in person and phone sessions and workshops
212.737.6368, 917.207.4554;

Brief Statement: Reid Mihalko is a coach, writer and educator with a remarkable ability to create a profound sense of safety for clients upon meeting or speaking with them. His coaching focuses on opening up new space for sexual and sensual self-expression inside relationships through the use of role modeling, forthright communication, and a deeper, pragmatic understanding of how relationships and emotions work. Reid’s coaching approach is simple: He uses that sense of safety he so easily generates as a tuning fork to teach people how to make themselves feel safe and empowered. From their own foundation of safety, and applying the powerful communication tools and perspectives woven through Reid’s life and work, clients can then invite others into their “safe-space.” Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from all walks of life, all orientations, relationship “lovestyles,” countries and religions.

William Picker, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist/Licensed Psychologist New York
245 North Broadway, Sleepy Hollow, NY, 10591. Easily accessible from Westchester/Rockland/Dutchess/Orange Counties, and Northern New Jersey.
(914) 524-0042

Brief Statement: I am a veteran clinical psychologist, joining the faculty of an Ivy League Medical School in 1986. I have presented and published in the area of BDSM, and am BDSM-, Kink-, Fetish-, Poly- and LGBTQ-friendly and knowledgable. I am the administrative coordinator of a large peer group of seasoned sex therapists in NYC. I provide insight psychotherapy from the position of knowledge and understanding of alternative sexual thinking and desires.

Katherine Rachlin, PhD
49 West 24th Street, 9th Floor, New York, NY 10010
212-206-3636; kitrachlin(at)

Dr. Vittoria Repetto
Doctor of Chiropractic (D.C.) - Certified Applied Kinesiologist
Location: 455 W. 23rd St (between 9th and 10th Ave), NYC, NY 10011
212-431-3724; drvittoriarepett(at)

Brief Statement: I have been helping people feel better naturally since 1987 and have had many patients who are involved in both the poly-amorous and BDSM world. In my office, you can safely and honestly voice your concerns without fear of judgement. I integrate manual muscle testing with standard methods of diagnosis. Through spinal, extremity, cranial (skull) and TMJ (jawbone) adjustments, acupressure, muscle balancing, stress reduction, lymphatic & vascular organ reflexes and nutrition, we work together to bring you to a higher level of health and help you to actualize your potential.

Laurel Steinberg, PHD, Prof
Psychotherapist/Relationship Therapist/Board Certified Clinical Sexologist/Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology
Locations: 240 Madison Avenue, Suite 205 and 51 East 25th Street in NYC; Sessions in the office, by phone and Skype
917-574-0825; DrLaurelSteinberg (at)

Brief Statement: I am a Licensed Psychotherapist and Sexologist and have many years experience working with couples and families who practice non-monogamous lifestyles and who are members of the LGBTQ communities. Most of us have struggled with dating, relationships and communication at some point. Few of us are formally taught how to create rewarding relationships in which we may lovingly and effectively communicate our preferences and have our desires met, and it is my passion and pleasure to help others improve the quality of their lives. It’s time to transform your feelings of sadness, anxiety, guilt, low self-esteem or other emotions that are preventing you from enjoying your life and relationships. Take pleasure in experiencing emotional well-being and create a rewarding work life. I'm looking forward to working with you - contact me at any time with questions.

Three Sisters Midwifery Care
NYS Licensed Midwives/Vermont Licensed Midwives; Homebirth Midwifery, Waterbirth, Annual Well-woman
Location: 406 Fulton St Suite 513, Troy, NY 12180
518-526-1917; threesistersbirth(at)

Brief Statement: We honor diversity in culture, relationships and sexuality in a safe space for our clients. We provide care for homebirthing families within 1-1.5 hours of Troy, NY and gentle gyn care for annual Paps and exams. We do not participate with insurance, but many policies will cover some services. Feel free to contact us for more information.

Nicole Urban, M.A., Licensed Mental Health Counselor
NYS Affirmative Psychotherapy
Skype/FaceTime/Phone sessions available for all of New York!
Chelsea Office- 275 7th Avenue @ 25th Street
Union Square Office- 841 Broadway @ 13th Street
646-580-7097 (text messages are welcome!); UrbanLMHC(at)

Brief statement: Sometimes we all need to talk to a great listener in a safe place. I am happy to provide individuals in kinky or polyamorous relationships with a place where you are welcome to speak freely, honestly, and openly about relationships and sexuality as well as other important areas of your life. Choosing this support allows you to regain a sense of control and feel stimulated and challenged by life instead of overwhelmed. I've devoted the last 8 years to becoming an excellent listener capable of understanding you, even when you aren't quite sure what you are trying to say.

As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I work with individuals and couples around relationships, life transitions, sexuality, and parenting. I have shared my expertise through teaching university courses on Adulthood and Aging, Human Sexuality, and Child Development. My practice is LGBTQ and kink friendly. I work on a simple fee-for-service basis and have a reasonable sliding-fee scale. For those with out-of-network insurance coverage, I am happy to provide invoices for reimbursement at your request.


Sheffa Ariens, MA, Poly Relationship Counselor
Location: Durham, NC
Phone, email, and Skype sessions, as well as in-person sessions in the Raleigh-Durham area

Brief Statement: I have 10+ years working with the polyamory, non-monogamy, swinger, and kink communities as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My work weaves together compassionate listening, the latest discoveries of psychological theory, and relationship skill building with the growing wealth of knowledge and experience coming out of the poly movement. My focus is to help you step out of your fear and be curious, brave, and kind to yourself. I encourage you to bring the wisdom of your body, soul, and intuition into your relationships, and to be playful whenever possible. Some sliding scale is available.

John W. Errington
Professional Certified Life Coach
704-312-2314; coachjohn (at),
Located in NC, available for coaching nationwide.

Brief statement: I have been poly for 10 years and living with my female partner for 15. We have faced and overcome many challenges and I know I can help others who may be facing challenges as well. I offer coaching to individuals, couples, triads, poly families, and any other combination thereof.

Amy Stapleford, M.Ed.
Sexuality educator, coach, blogger, group facilitator, artist, activist, nerd and enthusiast
Location: Chapel Hill, NC; phone consultations or sessions
amy (at)

Brief statement: I am a sexual embodiment coach and sexuality educator who accompanies folks as they create relationships that work for them by assisting them in identifying and embracing their desires and boundaries, actively living in and through the body, and learning how to clearly communicate with partners. I believe there is no “Right” way to be a sexual being, as long as relationships and activities are all fully consensual.


Rita Messer, MSW, LISW-S
Columbus and Gahanna, OH
614-459-4490 ext 18
In-person sessions, brief phone consultations available.
Insurance accepted.

Brief statement: I have extensive experience working with families and individuals. I utilize only evidence-based secular approaches (primarily cognitive behavioral). I believe in creating a team approach to counseling with the goal of assisting you in increasing your ability to manage your emotions and relationshps in the most helpful way possible. I specialize in treating depression and anxiety disorders, as well as relationship counseling, for ages 14+. Therapy modalities used are CBT, REBT, and Cognitive Processing Therapy for treatment of PTSD.


(see also Lee M. Faver in Washington state section)

Chalaina Connors, MA, LPC
Bilingual Teen, Young Adult, Adult, and Family Therapist
Terapeuta bilingüe de adolescentes, adultos y familias.
Location: 1020 SW Taylor St, Suite 640, Portland, OR 97205
503-784-0226; chalaina(at)

Brief Statement: I am a licensed professional counselor. I specialize in helping people heal from trauma, especially in regards to domestic violence/abuse. I am passionate about helping people understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. I empower people to make better educated decisions and give them skills so they can be successful. I am involved in the local BDSM community and identify as polyamorous. As a cognitive-behavioral therapist, I also work with anxiety and depression. I pride myself on being an open minded therapist.

Andrew Royal Dugas
Poly Relationship Coach, Yoga + Argentine Tango Instructor
Location: Eugene, OR & Houston, TX; Conference or individual phone sessions, in person, classes/workshops. Lovingly Priced, Sliding Scale<
832-768-8288; polyintegrity(at)

Brief Statement: Andrew came to polyamory through marriage, opening his marriage in 2001 with his out poly wife and consciously exploring responsible poly-relationships with joy ever since. Having transformed a lifetime of very possesive, jealous relationship dynamics within himself, Andrew has great compassion and specific expertise in the traditionally minded interested (or terrified!) in opening themselves and their relationships. He has been a stand for the last 9 years in others getting access great relationships in their lives. He uses the wisdom of polyamory as a guide to gain perspective on those things that constrain the freedom and love that inhibit each of us to grow freely in our love lives. Please email or call to schedule a free 20 minute intake call to see if Andrew is a good fit for coaching sessions!

Sofia E Jamison, MA, CHt
Relationship Coaching & Soul-centered Counsel
Portland, OR
503-544-3559; sofia(at)

Brief Statement: I have a Master's degree in Spiritual Psychology, am a Certified Imago Relationship Community Educator and a certified Hypnotherapist. I do Relationship Coaching and Soul-centered counseling. I work from a lovely professional office in Sellwood, SE Portland, Oregon but also offer Skype sessions. I do offer a free 30' consultation for anyone interested in learning more about my work.

Meg Jeske, M.A.
Professional Counselor
Location: 2100 NE Broadway Suite 319A, Portland, OR 97232
503.985.6344; meg(at)

Brief statement: Individual and relationships counseling with a focus on queer and trans identified individuals. I am queer identified and have personal and professional experience with trans, kink and poly communities. My clinical interests include gender, sexuality, grief & loss, parenting, and adoption. I have a foundation in relational theory and my work with clients often explores how relationships of all kinds inform, entangle and enhance their lives. Initial consultation at no charge, sliding scale available.

Christine Mermilliod, MS, LPC LMFT NCC (other link)
Licensed Professional Counselor/Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist/National Certified Counselor
406 NE 4th St., Gresham, OR 97030 (Portland, Oregon/Vancouver, WA metro area)
Do you do phone consultations or sessions? Phone consultation
503 891 9858; (at) gmail (dot) com

Brief statement: I am a sex-positive therapist with extensive personal and professional experience in the areas of poly, swinging, BDSM, and GLBTQ issues. I also have experience working with people who are having trouble adjusting when their loved one "comes out" to them. My standard fee for a 45-50 minute session is $75 for intake and $70 for follow-up appointments, via cash, check (local only), and PayPal. I offer sliding-fee rates based on income and need. I also accept the following insurance: Aetna, Cigna (EAP & regular), ComPsych (EAP & regular), EASE EAP, Oregon Crime Victims, Pacific Source, Reliant Behavioral Health (EAP & regular), and Cascade EAP. I am also available for distance counseling with Oregon residents via Skype (cash only).

Kate McNulty, LCSW
Location: 1020 SW Taylor Street, Portland OR 97205
I offer phone consultations or sessions in person at my downtown Portland office. Some clients meet weekly and people from out of town book may extended sessions over a weekend.
(503) 295-6265; katemcn(at)

Brief Statement: My practice tends to involve skill development, helping couples articulate their needs and negotiate with each other. I’m certified as a Sex Therapist as well as a Gottman Institute Relationship Therapist. This means I use research-based methods. I have seen many couples get a great deal of satisfaction and accomplishment through opening their relationships. Typically this requires considerable skill and self-awareness. I would be glad to help you decide if this is the right direction for your relationship.

Gina Senarighi, MA, MS, QMHP, BCC
Relationships and Couples Coach and Counselor, Group Development Facilitator
Location: Portland OR, USA
Skype and in-person sessions
971-302-8286; gmsenarighi(at)

Brief Statement: I have been working with LGBTQQAI, Kinky, sex-positive, and polyamorous individuals and couples for seven years as a coach, and more recently as a counselor in Portland and Seattle. Of course I work with straight couples who aren't sure if any of this is for them too! I love helping couples and poly-groups navigate changes in relationships with integrity and care. Access to care is important to me, so I do offer a number of sliding scale payment options and online sessions.

Kirk Shepard, MA NCC
Rootstock Counseling
Location: 2100 NE Broadway #333 Portland, OR 97232
503-498-8102; kirk(at)

Brief Statement: There's a lot to consider when opening or sustaining an open relationship. A large portion of my practice is dedicated to LGBTQ clients, although I support clients from various backgrounds. I work closely with my clients to help them build the relationships that they want. Together we uncover the underlying needs and desires within all of their relationships. I support adult individuals and couples in navigating sex and sexuality, learning about their responses to jealousy, issues with secrecy, and the scheduling challenges that often accompany poly/open relationship structures.

Dr. Samuel Stem PsyD, LPC
1525 NE Weidler, Suite 101
Portland, Oregon 97217
(503) 523-8199

Brief statement: I am a Kink-knowledgeable, GLBTQ-friendly, insight-oriented practitioner. I work with clients concerned with substance use/abuse, self-esteem, depression, anxiety, life transitions and emotional regulation concerns. I offer an initial free consultation to help you decide if I may be a good fit, as well as a generous sliding scale. Located in downtown Portland, close to public transit, with weekend and evening hours available.

I specialize in confidential and non-judgmental addiction and mental health counseling, paired together for the most effective approach. With more than twenty years of practice and training, I assist individuals and families struggling with chronic health illnesses, disabilities, severe mental illness, and substance abuse/dependence issues.

Ursina Teuscher PhD
Decision Counselor
Location: 522 SW 5th Ave, Suite 1265, Portland, OR 97206
858-200-6887, 503-446-6166; ursina(at)

Brief Statement: I offer decision assistance and counseling to individuals as well couples or groups who want to address issues together. The focus of our work will be your decision situation, rather than your person. In other words, I will not try to change you (or your partner). Rather, I will work with you to find the best solutions to your decision problems by using decision-aiding techniques that enhance our creativity but at the same time help us think more systematically. For couples and groups, this process may also include negotiation and clarification of common and differing interests. In my approach I emphasize creative problem solving more than negotiation and compromises.


Tamara Pommells, LPC, LCADC
Psychotherapist and Dual Licensed Relationship Coach
Serving the Philadelphia Metro area and offering international consultations online
Services are offered in our NJ office and online through our website.

Brief Statement: This dual licensed therapist has 15+ years of training and experience working with individuals and families as they transition into the lives they genuinely want to live. Our approach is creative and solution focused for proven results with poly relationships. We look forward to helping our clients live mighty lives.

Max Rivers
Marriage and Relationship Mediator
Serving the Philadelphia Metro area and offering international consultations online
215-266-0598; maxrivers508 (at)

Brief statement: Teaching couples and polycules how to understand their own underlying needs, and how to communicate them using NVC: Non-Violent Communication.

David Dean Schwartz, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), MSW, M.Ed., Ed.D (candidate)
Location: Orchard Counseling and Education, 8302 Old York Rd., Elkins Park, PA 19027; serving SE Pennsylvania and Southern NJ.
215-392-4636, dave (at)

Brief statement: Alternative sexual lifestyles present wonderful opportunities, and also difficult challenges. Our empowering, sex-positive approach to individual and couples counseling balances respect for differences with a sensitivity to the real challenges of living a non-traditional lifestyle. Please see our website, for more information.




(Also see: Andrew Royal Dugas under Oregon listing)

Susan Bushong, M.A., L.P.C., L.M.F.T
Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
3625 Manchaca Rd. Suite 202B Austin, TX. 78704; office and phone appointments available
512-415-9820; sbushong(at)

Brief Statement: Practicing as a therapist for over 25 years, I stay on the cutting edge of the latest developments in the field of individual, couples and family counseling. I continue to learn and provide fresh, new and alternative ideas with compassion and understanding gained from both professional training as well as personal experience. Although I have experience and training working with nearly any individual emotional difficulty, I find my work with couples and families with alternative life styles most rewarding. The focus of my practice is relationship issues of all kinds with a particular emphasis on sexuality and intimacy problems, power struggles, sexual desire, sexual pain disorders and compulsive pornography use that may interfere with intimate connection. I also have specialized training in the area of eating disorders and body image concerns.

Denis “Woodja” Flanigan, M.S., L.P.A.
Location: 2600 Southwest Fwy, Suite 409, Houston, TX 77098. Offering brief phone consultations and in-office sessions. 713-589-9804
denisflanigan (at)

Brief Statement: Offering individual psychotherapy, relationship counseling, career counseling, personality assessments, and presentations addressing various issues. Active in the local GLBT and leather/BDSM communities and is accepting of persons from a range of genders (M, F, T), ethnicities, and sexual lifestyles (e.g., polyamorous, swingers/the lifestyle, Sir/boy, BDSM, GLBT/heterosexual, etc.). Initial consultation at no charge.

Melissa Hargrave, MS, LPC, LMFT
401 East 53rd Street, Ste 102 Austin, TX. 78751; 512-850-2287;
mmh (at)

Brief Statement: I am a licensed psychotherapist providing individual couple/group family therapy and workshops for sexually and culturally diverse youth and adults in Austin, Texas. I have experience working with a diversity of sexual and gender orientations and expressions. I recognize it can be difficult to talk with a stranger about your problems particularly in a sex negative culture; therefore, I take particular care to provide a confidential supportive and sex- positive space to discuss a variety of life experiences. My focus and goal relies on honoring the unique worldview diversity and personal strengths of every individual partnership and family toward collaborating a more satisfying way of life.

Lisa D. Hensley, Ph.D. (Iris Psychological Services)
Licensed Psychologist
Arlington, TX
817-962-0035; drhensley (at)

Brief statement: Hello! I am a licensed psychologist who does psychotherapy and sex therapy with individuals and those in relationships. I am both familiar and comfortable with polyamory, swing, and other forms of ethical non-monogamy. I am also knowledgeable about kink, leather relationships, and the dynamics of power exchange. I am LGBTQI-friendly, and when working with clients with gender-related concerns, I adhere to the standards of care established by the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH).

Jessica Kraybill
LPC Intern, supervised by John Jones, PhD, LPC-s
Location: 1000 Westbank Dr., Ste 6-250, Austin, TX 78746
Free 20 min phone consultations
512-655-9336; jessicakraybillcounseling (at)

Brief statement: I want to provide a safe place in which to share your feelings, proclivities, and ideas while also tackling life's bigger issues. I am open-minded, straight forward and kind, and my practice reflects this via my open nature and my ability to put people at ease. I have experience working with a variety of sexual and relational issues and work hard to provide an inviting space in which to share. I've worked with many people from varying backgrounds and with diverse needs and continue to grow as a professional. I love what I do and I strive to provide the highest caliber support for all of my clients' unique needs.

Paulette Lee, M.A., M.Ed.,
Licensed Professional Counselor
Location: Dallas/Fort Worth Metroplex, 1245 Hurstview Drive, Suite #100, Hurst, TX 76053
817-793-6098; lee.paulette(at) (use "Open List inquiry" in subject line, please)

Brief Statement: I do initial phone consultations and can arrange phone sessions, but prefer to have 2-3 face-to-face sessions, if possible, first.

Robert McGarey, M.A.
Poly Relationship counselor
Loction: Available nationally by phone. Located at The Human Potential Center, 2007 Bert Avenue, Austin, TX 78704
Phone consultations or sessions? Yes, and the first introductory half-hour session is free.
512-441-8988; Bob (at)

Brief statement : Personal Growth/Relationship Sessions for Individuals, Couples, Triads, Quads or Moresomes. Author of The Poly Communication Survival Kit. Frequent presenter at national poly conferences. Over 25 years experience with poly issues. Knowledgeable, insightful, non-judgmental. Phone sessions available. $120 for full 60-minute hour. Sliding scale available.

Heather M. McPherson, M.,A., LPC, LMFT
Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Kink-Aware Therapist, and Relationship Coach
4611 Bee Caves Rd. 78749, Austin, TX. (In Westlake)
Phone consultations or sessions? Yes. Free 15-20 minute phone consultation for all new clients
512-553-6310; AustinLifeCounseling (at)

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Poly and Kink-Aware Therapist in Austin, Texas. I provide Therapy and Coaching in my office in Westlake, and through telephone and Skype if you are a resident of Texas. I strive to provide an open, nonjudgmental environment where clients can explore and grow. I work with individuals (Adults), couples, partnerships, groups, and families with issues involved in traditional and alternative lifestyles and relationships. As a sex positive therapist, I have experience working with members of the Polyamorous, LGBTQQIA, Swinger, and Kink communities. Issues of focus include: Ethical non-monogamy, Monogamy, Open Relationships, BDSM, Communication, Career Counseling, Pre-marital Counseling, Affairs, Healthy Sexuality, and Major Life Transitions, Anxiety, Body Image Issues.

Megan Pollock, LPC, Relationship & Sex Therapy
Location: Houston, TX area (5959 W Loop South, Ste 410, Bellaire, TX 77401)
Phone consultations or sessions: Yes
(281) 974-2726; megan (at)

Brief statement about experience, your practice, anything else you want to say: With over 10 years of practice in numerous settings, I have a multi-cultural, systemic approach. I provide relationship and sex therapy to individuals, couples, and families. Respecting diversity, my mission is to help people from all walks of life and lifestyles to make lasting change, navigate transitions, and achieve their goals.


Pam Steeg, LICSW
Williston, Vermont
Sessions only. In-network for most major insurance plans..
802-310-9623; pamsteeg(at)

Brief Statement: I am a poly friendly and knowledgable therapist who has been working with families for over 20 years. My husband and I are practicing a healthy polyamorous marriage. In 2011 I started to work with couples and individuals who are in a wide range of open relationships. I am enjoying using some of the knowledge I have gained to help people improve their communication; work on jealousy triggers and find other ways to have a healthier way of loving more.


Rebecca Hiles
Dating and Relationship Coaching, Dating Profile Consultations
Location: Northern Virginia and DC
Phone consultations, and in person or Skype sessions
724-SEX-EDU1; Rebecca (at)

Brief statement: I have been involved in polyamory since I was in my late teens. I've been working in the sexual health and education field since 2008 and I have been speaking publicly about my experiences since 2011. As a dating and relationship coach, I focus on personal advocacy and teaching people the skills to advocate for themselves in all relationships! Appointments are available and rates are affordable.

Amy Long
Lawyer, Practice Limited to Immigration & Nationality Law Exclusively
Location: Alexandria, VA, but representing clients nationwide; phone consultations available
703-270-9235; along(at)

Brief Statement: We welcome clients from all 50 states, DC and abroad. We also encourage and welcome members of the GLBT community, Asylum applicants, etc. Other practice areas include family-based immigration, employment-based visas, TPS/NACARA, citizenship, and nonimmigrant visas (religious visas, student, visitor, etc). We offer a caring & respectful environment and an honest assessment of your legal concerns.

Tamara Pincus, LICSW
Location: 300 N. Washington St. Suite 607 Alexandria VA 22314
240-305-8315; tpincus76(at)

Brief Statement: The goal of my practice is to provide a safe place for people to explore their lives and learn skills to help them cope. One of the first things that you will notice is that I will not judge you and I will not think you are “crazy”. We will work together to help you figure out what issues you want to work on and how we can best address them. Together we can change behaviors, resolve issues and help reduce pain and suffering. I am a certified sex therapist and also certified to treat co-occurring mental health and substance abuse disorders. I have extensive experience working with depressive and anxious symptoms. I have a special interest in supporting individuals through issues related to sexual exploration sexual identity and gender identity. I have experience working with kinky and polyamorous clients and I am interested in helping people create better communication in their relationships so that they can get what they need out of them.

De Juana J Smith-Gatling, MS, MDIV, PhD candidate Clinical Psychology
500 Montgomery Street, 4th Floor Alexandria VA 22314
By appointment only / can purchase blocks of psycho-therapy space of 1, 3,4 8 sessions.
703-825-8258 - office; 800-379-7530 ext 301

I have extensive experience in work with couples and individuals using an integrative approach and practicum that aids in the most challenging conflicts. Poly-Friendly and blended family systems welcome. I have worked for many years with individuals with personality disorders and eating disorders.


(see also Christine Mermolliod in Oregon state section)

Dr. Katie Baker, ND, LMP
Naturopathic Physician, Licensed Massage Therapist
Location: Stone Turtle Health, 6204B 8th Ave NW, Seattle, WA 98107
206-355-4309, fax 206-297-6325; info(at)

Brief statement: At Stone Turtle Health, we're committed to the health of our community. We provide primary care services and therapeutic massage therapy (not relazation massage). In addition, we also have other providers onsite- family counselors, massage therapists and will be adding an acupuncturist soon. Our goal is to help you make health decisions that are best for you and the ones you love, not to judge. Please call or email today with questions or to schedule and appointment (or check out our website).

Kathyrn Kemp Chociej, MSW
Weeds to Wishes Counseling & Consulting
220 M St NE Auburn, WA 98002
253-653-6217; kat (at)

Brief statement: I work with children, adolescents, and adults. When working with clients, I am sensitive to how oppression impacts mental health and hinders our ability to find our place in the world. Some issues we can explore together include: LGBTQ issues, traumatic experiences, coming out, family of origin, depression, and anxiety. I provide affirmative counseling for trans* and gender queer clients. I believe that therapy should be a choice and I do not view gender dysphoria as a mental health issue. I approach my work from a place of empathy, non-judgment, and support. My goal is to help clients feel empowered by their work in therapy, obtain personal growth, and fulfillment, and ultimately lead a more loving, joyful, and authentic life.

I am an active member of National Association of Social Workers (NASW), World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), and Washington State Society for Clinical Social Work (WSSCSW). I facilitate support groups for parents of gender-variant children through Gender Diversity, and a wellness group through Gilda's Club.

Nicole Donahue, M.A. LMFT
600 First Avenue Seattle, Washington
(206) 486-2655; nicoledonahuemft(at)

Brief Statement: I provide psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families in downtown Seattle. I work with a wide range of clients and issues, including: Young people and adults, Queer families including prospective parents, Gender questioning folks and people on the transgender spectrum, Students pursuing a career in psychotherapy and/or social work, Non-conformists and social justice activists, Active substance users / Harm Reduction, Grief and loss issues, Childhood abuse/Sexual abuse/Trauma survivors, Anxiety and depression, Life transition stressors, Pregnancy and postpartum concerns, Sibling sets

Lee M. Faver, PhD ABPP
Licensed Board Certified Psychologist
Location: 5501 NE 109th Ct, Suite A1, Vancouver, WA 98661 (also serves Portland, OR area)
Phone: 360.567.0488

Brief Statement: More than 20 years of professional experience working with individuals, couples and groups age 16-80 years of age have taught me that most people want to understand what’s happening, develop a plan to improve things and have assistance following through. So, I encourage people to appreciate past experience and work on multiple levels to create real change and more satisfying lives. My experience in the sexuality-gender domain includes many sexuality and sexual health concerns, sexual orientation, BDSM/kink, gender issues and transgender spectrum as well as gender reassignment and medical transitioning. As a sex positive professional, I have experience with both same and opposite-sex couples as well as polyamorous and non-traditional relationships. In addition to these varied matters of a sexual nature, my clinical practice focuses emphasizes couple (and poly-) therapy; treatment of childhood sexual, physical abuse and trauma; and a behavioral medicine approach to chronic illness (i.e.: diabetes, food allergies, HIV). I'm an experienced trainer, clinical supervisor and teacher on sexuality topics including orientation, therapy with GLBTQ people, sexuality, HIV, HIV prevention, treating chronic illness.

Kristen Knapick
Psychotherapist, MA, LMHCA
Location: Seattle, WA; offering free initial 20 min consultation by phone or in office
206-279-3140; reThinkTherapyNow(at)

Brief statement: My "specialty" is working with what I like to call "sex and gender outlaws." This is my way of affectionately describing those of us who live on the fringes of gender and sexuality, in whatever ways we might do so. I am proud to offer therapy from within the communities I serve, and am familiar with the subtleties of "alternative lifestyles" such as polyamory, kink, queer, sex work, gender variance, etc. I am qualified to write "Harry Benjamin" letters for hormones/surgery for those who meet WPATH standards of care. Please see my website for more info.

Randy Marinez, MS, LMHC
811 First Avenue, Suite 540 in Seattle.
206-343-5561; randymarinez (at)

Brief statement: I have been counseling for 32 years and in private practice since 1988. One of my specialties is working with the sex positive community including those in polyamorous, open and/or kinky relationships. I also work with the LGBTQ community and have been trained in safer sex and HIV/AIDS since the 1980s. I work with adult individuals, couples and alternative relationships. I offer a free initial consultation and negotiate my fee for low-income individuals.

Jody Myers, MA
Therapist and/or consultant for individuals, couples, and families
Location: Seattle area
206-437-5623, jodymyers (at); findingthebalance (at)

Brief statement: I accept and embrace the diversity of human experience and expression. Within that construct, I act as a catalyst stimulating growth and learning that can facilitate each unique situation to unfold and expand into more personal satisfaction.

Kelley O'Hanlon, MA, LMFTA/Marriage and Family Therapist
7981 168th Avenue NE, Suite 220, Redmond, WA 98052
425-223-3495; crowcounseling(at)

Brief Statement: I specialize in alternative lifestyles. I work with clients who are from any or all of the following groups: polyamorous/non-monogamous, BDSM/kinky, LGBTQQIA, geeky, and alternative spirituality and/or atheist. I support clients in their desire to live more fulfilling lives by means of individual, and couples, therapy. I help clients dealing with anxiety, life-transitions, family-of-origin issues, couples/relationship issues, bipolar, and depression.

Joey Pickering, MA LMHC
Roots to Branches Counseling & Consulting
Pioneer Square - Seattle, WA
206-550-3830; joep(at)
Insurance accepted; weekend and evening appts available

Brief statement: Roots to Branches Counseling & Consulting strives to provide safe and knowledgeable therapy services that respect all individuals as they are. We take a special interest in LGBT concerns and non-traditional family structures; adults and teens. Whether it be exploring ones identity, changes in mood, or negative behavior patterns - Roots to Branches can help you grow towards your goal.

Joey Pickering is a licensed mental health counselor in Washington state and clinical supervisor for masters level therapists. He received his masters degree through Antioch University in Seattle. Joey has over ten years of experience working with youth and their families in capacities ranging from: teaching, outreach, summer programming, crisis response, school-based counseling and agency mental health. He is a member of the Seattle Counselors Association, the GSBA, and a verified counselor of Psychology Today and He uses a mixture of modalities that look at our behaviors in relation to the meanings we assign events (whether helpful or hurtful); his background being in Adlerian/Individual Psychology. He supports the work of LGBT affirming therapy. ACT is also present throughout the work of Roots to Branches. Joey finds it resonates with many clients in its ability to learn to observe our painful/distressing thoughts rather than identify with them as truth, while striving towards more value-based living.

Jennyfer Raden, MA, LMHC, CGE
Location: Greater Seattle area; in person consultations only
206-850-4624; jennyfer(at)

Brief statement: At Healthy Couples you will experience confidential, couples counseling. Relax in a safe, comfortable sex positive environment. Learn to use tools applicable to your everyday life and build healthy habits without changing who you are. All sexual preferences welcome: GLBTQ, BDSM, Poly, Open, Swing, Het.

Shannon Solie, LMHCA
Human centered psychotherapist
226 Summit Ave E Seattle WA 98122
206-456-6133; ShannonSolieTherapy (at)
In-person and Phone/video available on limited basis

Brief Statement: I provide psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families in the Capitol Hill neighborhood of Seattle. I work with lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans* and queer identified people and their allies. I am trained in sexuality education and post-cancer sexuality, with a range of knowledge in psychology from bio-psychology to existential paradoxes. I work with a range of issues including: trauma, depression, anxiety, life transition (medical diagnosis, gender variance, pregnancy and post-partum), grief and loss, LGBTQ specific issues, and Poly and Kink relationship dynamics. Consultations and limited sliding scale services available.

Brittany Steffen, MS, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist
Downtown Seattle, Washington
In person sessions, free initial phone consultation, accepts insurance
(206) 708-4567; Brittany(at)

Brief statement: My personal background lends itself to my therapeutic stance, and showcases what type of clinician I am. My mother is a conservative, Christian living in Yakima, Washington, and my father is a gay, liberal, equal rights activist in Seattle. Growing up, I split my time going back and forth between these wildly different groups, learning all the while. Because of my experience, I see my self as a facilitator and educator in a world that has enough space for every point of view and every lifestyle. I love being a therapist, because I get to work with clients as they build the lives and relationships they've always wanted.

Kate Stewart, MA LMHCA
Psychotherapist and Dating Coach
Location: Serving the Seattle area
206-669-4912; info(at)

Brief Statement: As a therapist, I focus on providing radical acceptance and non-judgemental support to people who may be misunderstood by other people. I specialize in working with polyamorous individuals, couples, triples, families, etc, as well as working with kinky-identified people. I also provide poly and kink friendly dating coaching and classes.


Kara Catrelle, MSW
Psychotherapist/Educator/Spiritual Practitioner
Location: 709 E. Juneau Avenue, Ste. 801, Milwaukee, WI 53202
414-687-0008; Kara(at)
Phone Consultations

Brief Statement: Ms. Catrelle specializes in psycho-spiritual awareness/transformation, gender/sexuality concerns, bioenergetics, and health & wellness consultation for individuals and couples of all diverse identities and lifestyles. The foundation of her practice is based on empowering clients through developing greater self-referral mechanisms. Her professional emphasis is on combining ancient spiritual knowledge with modern science, utilizing both Eastern and Western wisdom, the power of Myth, Alchemy, Dream Interpretation, Tantra, Bioenergetics & Cognitive Neuroscience, and ancient Ayurvedic Principles to bring forth greater consciousness, clarity and balance for her clients. Ms. Catrelle has a deep understanding of the evolutionary path of the soul and assists people in living one's highest potential. She offers her clients psychotherapy, education, spiritual guidance, and health & wellness consultation for individuals, families, corporations and schools. In-Person ~ Individual/Couples ~ Groups ~ Telephone Sessions available.

Jasmine St. John, MS, LMFT
Alternative Sex Therapist
Location: Madison, WI
608-279-3900, jsj(at)

Brief statement: Specializing in alternative relationships configurations, GLBT, polyamory, alternative family formations, sexual identity, sex workers, fetishes, BDSM, sexual exploration, swinging, sexual abuse, sexual spirituality, introducing sexual ideas to your partner/s, self acceptance of sexual preferences, and non traditional approaches to sexuality. The therapist also works with traditional couples in regards to their relationship, sexual choices, and communication.


Wally Wolfe, LPC
Professor (Psychology and Human Sexuality) with part-time general counseling practice. The “LPC” reflects Wyoming licensure as a professional counselor.
Location: Northwest College, Frisby Building, 231 W. 6th St, Powell, WY 82435.
307-754-6132, wally.wolfe (at)

Brief statement : 20+ years of experience as a therapist, 15+ years teaching Human Sexuality, research interest in alternative sexualities in rural communities (we don’t all live in NYC or Southern California), listed as a “kink friendly” professional with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Safe¸ non-judgmental, and (this is a rural area) very careful with confidentiality.


Peter Bloch
Existential/Person-Centered Touch Therapist (BA, MSTAT, Practitioner Member BAPCA)
Location: Cheshire and Manchester, England, UK
Phone: 01625-548233
Email: peter(at)

Brief Statement: I am a teacher, trainer and therapist with more than 25 years' experience, specialising in working with people who are 'different' and 'differently abled' in various ways. Bloch Healing is the application of the principles of existential/person-centred psychotherapy through the modality of touch and this may be of particular benefit to people intuitively attracted to this approach, as well as to those suffering from physical pain or discomfort, and for people with communication disabilities. An empathic approach, and an acceptance and welcoming of people as they are, is at the core of the therapeutic principles.

Cyndi Darnell
Sex Therapist, Counselor & Sex educator
Location: Melbourne Australia and internationally via Skype
Email: cyndi [at] cyndidarnell [dot] com

Brief Statement: Cyndi Darnell is a qualified, holistic sex therapist & counselor, specialising in work with individuals, couples and beyond who want to develop a more intimate, profound and fulfilling connection with their sexual selves. Cyndi values the importance of pleasure and believes that a healthy sex / relationship life is part of an overall approach to holistic wellness. Cyndi sees people of all orientations, genders and outlooks from her rooms in Carlton, (Australia) or by appointment via Skype.

Michelle Fischler, MSW RSW
Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
416-564-2960, michelle (at) centraltorontotherapy (dot) ca

Brief statement: I am an MSW RSW working in Toronto. I have a full-time private practice working with individuals and couples. I am currently a new Associate of BESTCO. I am in the process of becoming a registered Sex Therapist. I have a number of poly couples in my practice. I enjoy this work immensely and hope to eventually specialize in this area.

Shiva Rodriguez
Adviser / Non-Monogamy Lifestyle Coach

Brief Statement: I have been involved in various forms of non-monogamous lifestyles for over twenty years. I've also spent three years working as a Q&A columnist for an online magazine about human sexuality. My live advice line is geared toward helping newcomers to non-monogamy decide what relationship structure is best for their needs and assisting callers through any difficulties they may be experiencing in their relationships. Appointments are available day or night.

Nadine Sabulsky
The Naked Life Coach™ for Individuals, Couples, Families, Polyamory Bonds, Alternative Lifestyle, Businesses and Groups
Location: International Sessions via Skype or Phone
480-779-0886 and nakedlifecoach on Skype
Email address: info(at)

Brief Statement: With 23+ years experience in open/poly relationships, 6+ years experience with the fetish/BDSM community, 25+ years experience as an entrepreneur, 18+ years experience as a parent, as well as 25+ years studying metaphysics, "law of attraction" and the art of reality creation. I am the author of 3 books to date, and I LOVE helping people change their lives to live their dreams. My gift is being able to understand and accept simultaneously both who you are today and who you want to be, and show you how to get there.

Bianca Saia
Counseling/Thérapeute en Relation d'aide
Montréal, QC, Canada
I work with Skype as well
(514) 546-4364;

Brief statement: Because of my naturally open-minded personality and humanistic values, I enjoy working with clients that have a hard time to find acceptance not only within themselves, but from the society as a whole: homosexuals, bisexuals, transgender and queer people. I’m also enthusiastic to work with clients that have chosen a largely misunderstood lifestyle, such as BDSM practitioners/fetishists and polyamorists. Your life choices, orientations and preferences will be understood, honored and respected by me. I work in English, French and Portuguese.

Philip Strapp
Relationship Counsellor and Intimacy Coach
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
416-709-2348; phil.strapp(at)

Brief Statement: Helping people create satisfying intimate relationships. I address problems with communication, dysfunctions, difference of desire, abuse/trauma recovery and more. Mono/poly/queer/trans/kink-friendly, and helping people in transition from closed to open relationship.



American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)

Bisexuality-Aware Professionals Directory
list of professionals who are sensitive to the unique needs of bisexual clientele.

Kink-Aware Professionals
Resource for people who are seeking psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are informed about the diversity of consensual, adult sexuality (maintained by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom).

Kink-Aware Professionals - Canada
Pink Therapy
We are the UK's largest independent therapy organisation working with gender and sexual diversity clients. As an organisation we aim to promote high quality therapy and training services for people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender and others who identify as being gender or sexual diversities. There is a whole spectrum of different gender and sexual expressions and we welcome those who are engaged in consensual, albeit transgressive sexualities who are seeking a place to understand and be understood. These include, but are not restricted to people who identify as asexual, celibate, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or swingers and those involved in BDSM or Kink lifestyles or practices, anyone on the gender spectrum from cross dressers/transvestites, gender queer, intersex and those living with variations in sex development, androgynes, third sex/two spirit, to those living full time as transgenderists, transexuals (transmen and and transwomen). Phone: 020 7836 6647; E-mail: admin(at)
Poly-Friendly Professionals
list of professionals who have been referred or who have identified themselves as being open-minded about polyamory and polyamorous issues.

If you or someone you know would like to be added to the Open List, email the following information to raymond (at)

-Title/Occupation/License/What You Do (examples: MSW, PhD., relationship coach)
-Location: this can be a street address or the area you serve, like New York Metropolitan area
-do you do phone consultations or sessions?
-phone number(s)
-Email address
-brief statement about experience, your practice, anything else you want to say

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