If you're non-monogamous and want to meet people on dating sites, you can face some unique challenges. Luckily, blogger Kit O'Connell (along with co-blogger Molly Rene) has written a very comprehensive guide on how to utilize OKCupid for poly dating. The guide is broken down into seven sections:
- Introduction / What Is OKCupid?
- Writing a Dating Profile
- Answering Match Questions
- Finding People on OKCupid
- Meeting People on OKCupid
- Extra Features of OKCupid
- Conclusion: Finding Polyamorous Love
OKCupid's match questions are particularly useful for finding poly folks, as O'Connell explains:
Though I am a skeptic about personality tests in general, the breadth of the question database means that the site really can make a lot of educated guesses about you. Now that I've answered many questions, polyamorous and kinky people show up by the dozens in my top matches, usually ranking 90% or higher in match compatibility.
Polyana at Polytical has also written a post about her experience with OKCupid. She has found it to be a great resource.
I joined OKCupid to build my own poly-friendly community, and I have not been disappointed. It was where I first became sure that, yes, polyamorous people do exist, and they are perfectly normal. I found plenty of nice and friendly people, happy to connect and generous to share ideas and experiences. I got advice on relationship issues, information about meetings and events, new contacts, book and film recommendations, I have even got some guidance on DIY work. In the meantime, I have been building some nice friendships with people all over the world.
Although OKCupid is not a poly-focused site, the consensus seems to be that its intuitive personality matching system and its large pool of open-minded users make it one of the best dating sites out there.