Recently, there has been an explosion of articles about poly and non-monogamy posted on The Good Men Project, a website dedicated to examining men's roles in modern life.
One article about non-monogamy was posted back in December, but there was a call for submissions that resulted in a good many more articles. Many of them have been posted in their polyamory section, but here's a list of the best ones, with short snippets from each.
Polyamory, Fidelity and Faithfulness
The more honest you are with your lover about what you want from them, the more opportunities they will have to hurt you, but the more faithful to you it is possible for them to be.
. . . it often makes people uncomfortable when I come out as poly -- revealing that I am not only capable of romantically loving more than one person, but I am doing so comfortably . . .
Bi Polyamory: Calling a Spade a Spade
Polyamory . . . is the recognition that there is no such thing as an 'affair,' 'hook up,' 'mistress,' 'Fuck Buddy' or a 'Friends with Benefits' but rather that such really IS a true relationship and that such labels are only the boundaries (positive or negative) that one chooses to practice it in.
Monogamy Isn't For Everyone; Polyamory Isn't Going to Ruin the World
I think it is important to set a discourse in motion that recognizes polyamory as a legitimate relational style, and that allows people to begin thinking differently about the variety of ways in which people can relate.
Polyamory: Rebooting Our Definitions of Love and Family
I do long for a world in which we can see the value and possibility of many different ways of forming relationships, and in which we can each freely form our own decisions about the kind of family we’d like to create.
We suspected that having multiple adults around to care for an infant would be great, but I don't think any of us had any idea just how great it would be.
Truthfully, and with a positive attitude… The more honest you are with your lover about what you want from them, the FEWER opportunities they will have to hurt you, AND the more faithful to you it is possible for them to be. “Honesty is the best poetry*” …living a fearless life full of kindness and compassion will not guarantee happiness, but will at least improve your self-respect… Which may lead to lots of friendships and lovers. :-)